A few days ago I got a text from a seemingly random number, asking for me by my birth name. I thought that maybe it was one of my old friends, and I was right! It turned out to be an ex, who I broke up with and stopped talking to a few years ago because he was pretty rude and I needed some time to figure myself out. He told me he's in the navy now, but is in town on break or something, and I figured that maybe he was more polite now. I explained that I want to be called Matthew and answered a few simple questions, and soon enough we made plans for him to visit.
Maybe a few minutes later, he started talking about wanting to be in a relationship again. When he asked, I was like "Wait, you like guys...?"
And he said no, but I was an exception. I told him that I can't go out with someone who doesn't really consider me to be male. He insisted that he does, but I really had (and still have) a hard time believing that. Even so, it was just plain hurtful of him to say that he's straight but then ask me out when I had already explained that I'm trans.
But he just kept talking about things that happened when we were together before, which made me really uncomfortable. Some of the stuff was borderline sexual, even though we never did anything more than quick kisses. He also kept hinting at wanting to go out, even though I had already said no. After a while, I ended the call and remembered that he wanted to come over in a few days, which I obviously wasn't okay with anymore at that point. I was afraid to cancel because I could tell he would probably try to guilt trip me. A friend of mine encouraged me to, though, so I did end up telling him that something unexpected came up the next day, so I couldn't have him over.
He still texts me and has my facebook, though. He makes me so mad, he just keeps trying to flirt with me and is terribly rude in general! I'm afraid to block or ignore him, but at some point I'll have to decide between that or keeping my sanity, and he can go to hell if he thinks I won't put my health first.
I suppose I've learned one thing from this, though. This is the last time I'm ever going to give so much contact info to anyone, even an old friend, so quickly.
Anyways, I just needed to get that out. It was and is really frustrating, and I hope he'll just leave me alone by himself soon.
