Sex in the City for a T-Lady

[RavenAzrael]

Hey Ladies

I just have a few simple questions for all ye post op gals!!! What is sex like after SRS ? Is it as intense as sex with a penis? Is it painful or uncomfortable in anyway? Would you mind sharing your experiences? Have you ever had Multiple Orgasms ? How would you rate the average orgasm out of 10??

Thanks i advance
xoxo

[Jenna Marie]

I may not be what you want, since I'm not having sex with men, but it's a little unclear whether that's what you had in mind.

I'd say it's more intense in some ways than before, although that's largely b/c of additional erogenous zones compared to pre-HRT. Sensitivity in my new genitals is (as it is for cis women) now focused very tightly on a small area; I have full vaginal sensation and it's very nice, but it's not the focus. Clitoral stimulation, on the other hand, is about 1000X more intense than the penis was, even than the most-sensitive bit of the tip of the penis. No pain or discomfort once things healed up, and if I respect the fact that the vagina and vulva are a bit more delicate and prone to chafing than before.

I managed multiple orgasms once, but orgasming at all takes more work now (it's more fun, but time-consuming!) so I rarely attempt it. Orgasm itself is.... well, there's no real comparison to before. It was pretty consistent, before. Now it ranges from "was that actually an orgasm" at a 1 to "OMG, I think I levitated" at, say, 13.

[Robyn]

My 'orgasm nerves' were in a nonstandard location and, apparently, ended up as medical waste. I had two spontaneous orgasms about 6 years ago, and they blew my mind.

My orientation is still mostly toward women, and my husband's ((FTM) is definitely toward men. Great marriage, but in our 70s, sex or the lack thereof is happily not a major issue.

Robyn

[RavenAzrael]

Thanks guys!! Much Appreciated <3

[noleen111]

i have had sex with a man since my SRS...

Sex with a vagina, is different, it feels better than with a penis.. and feeling a mans hard penis inside you is amazing..

The orgasm. well that was nice.. I felt this wave/pulse spread all over my body, and my vagina was tingly and moist for a while afterward... i felt so relaxed.. this sex at 5 months post-op.. so my wiring is still healing... I cant wait to have mind blowing orgasms.. as I have been told this takes time..

[mandonlym]

I didn't have penetrative sex pre-transition so I can't answer the "sex with a penis" question so well, but the vagina sex thing suits me really well. And I do have multiple, extended orgasms... not sure how that happened but I'm not complaining. I mentioned to the boy the other day that I need to figure out how to not strain my voice because of sex...

[Nicole]

Sex, well for me its amazing, great, awesome, good, no so good and bad, not at once and not always the same.
If I'm right into the guy, everything from the kissing to orgasms is amazing, mind blowing knock your sock off.
the feeling of him wanting to explore, tease and over all love you is just amazing.
I'm not sure about others here, but he can be playing around and you get a need for more, nothing will fix it other than him inside and then its like a wave comes over you, everything is just working and building. He might be big or small, but because you're so into him it fits just right. Orgasms with a guy you're into just blow your mind and you sort of want more, but your whole body is at this peak that you can't move from.

If you're not right into him, it can be so hit and miss, its never as good as when you are, but it can be great, you sort of want to finish and move on.

I've been with one guy where it was so bad, lucky for me I had extra lube, which I can't to this day work out how he didn't notice I used during it, I was just thinking to myself "hurry the F*** up and come"

As for is it better than before?
its more right.