Quote from: Willow on December 25, 2013, 02:46:51 AM
Sit down with them, have a talk. Ask politely for them to use your name and pronouns correctly, and if they say no, ask them why not. It probably won't be a good reason.
I think that's probably the best course of action.
I agree with Willow. My mom and virtually all my relatives still call me by my old name, Randi, because it would have been my name anyway, if I was born a girl. Also, my chosen name, Miranda, has Rand in it, anyway. The thing I don't like is that my mom's been slipping with the pronouns a lot lately, and though I know it's definitely accidental, I said yesterday, Christmas morning, 'enough with the "he's" and "him's" mom, it's embarrassing!" And she got pretty mad, because she had a stroke a little more than a year ago, and said something like, "
>-bleeped-<, Randi! I'm trying." I never speak angrily toward her making those mistakes, because I was her 'son' (Ha!!) for 57 years. My mom, immediately upon my living full time, 27 months now, began trying to call me 'she' and 'her', but since her stroke she's slipping and I feel like a bitch having chastised her like that.
Ida, just sit down and tell them that you're NEVER going back and that you've got enough problems just trying to find your role in society as a new woman and you need their help in making your way. If they refuse to respect you and your life, more drastic steps might be in order. I'd make sure they know you're never going back to existing as a man, when you're finally living as a woman. Hugs, Merry belated Christmas, and good luck. Mira