I'd just like to ask your opinion

[stephaniec]

I've been on HRT going on 4 months . objectively I am unable to truly see my face as others would see it. I think my face if getting feminine. I tack pictures and it sure does look like it is. I was in the post office yesterday picking up a package. I noticed a couple of guys briefly looking at me then turn away. I'm in was in total boy mode. I went to leave to post office and as I walked out the door I heard this middle aged women as I passed by say eew. She might of been talking about some thing else totally unrelated to me. My hair the way it's cut looks like a female hair style. It's shoulder length. I've got a very feminine bang coming down my forehead  I personally could care less if she was talking about me or not. I was just curious if It could possibly be because I look female but I was wearing totally male clothes or because I was ambiguous . Has any one experience remarks that they weren't sure if they were referring to you or not.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

A lot of times actually...

people stare at me when Im boy mode , gets really annoying...


btw eeer random,,,I feel like doing straight bangs on my hair....does it make them more feminine?

[Katie]

Transition takes a long time!

[Ms Grace]

Unless you ask them you'll never know, and if you do ask them you'll either get denial or a hostile response (eg "mind yer own business!"). You can never really know why people respond the way they do, even they don't know why half the time. Likewise, how you chose to present yourself is none of their business. And yeah, transition takes time, four months is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

[Cindy]

One lesson I learned very quickly on this trip was 'Who cares?' I really, honestly, totally and completely don't worry about comments from people.

Their opinion means nothing.

Are you happy? That is all that is important.

And you have my first post in 2014!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

One lesson I learned very quickly on this trip was 'Who cares?' I really, honestly, totally and completely don't worry about comments from people.

Their opinion means nothing.

Are you happy? That is all that is important.

And you have my first post in 2014!

Are you a time traveler? ( XD )
still 2013 here

[Cindy]

Are you a time traveler? ( XD )
still 2013 here

Honey we are always ahead of the world in Australia! 8 am 1st January here!

[Ltl89]

I'm sorry to say, but people could very well be noticing you.  I get often stares nowadays in boy mode.  Not all the time, but my body and appearance has changed in a big way.  People notice and sometimes react openly.  It depends on the people and the stares.  Some look as though they are trying to figure out what's going on, some look at me annoyed and disapprovingly (I've gotten Ewwed at as well) some have a supportive smile and kind behavior, sometimes guys look at my body in interesting ways, etc.  What I'm trying to say is that there are many reactions, but people will start to notice and act in different ways. I'm at the ambigious middle stage and it sort of sucks.  If you are in the stage, be prepared for these various looks.  It's an unfortunate part of the process, but most people have to go through this.  Good luck and don't let people get to you.   After all, it won't last forever.

[Emo]

i cant wait to freak people out.

............

okay.. even as a guy im super selfconcious so id be pretty stung.
doesnt help that i plan to go to college at the same time.

its good that you can keep the reactions out of your head.
stonger than i am.

[Antonia J]

I'm sorry to say, but people could very well be noticing you.  I get often stares nowadays in boy mode.  Not all the time, but my body and appearance has changed in a big way.  People notice and sometimes react openly.  It depends on the people and the stares.  Some look as though they are trying to figure out what's going on, some look at me annoyed and disapprovingly (I've gotten Ewwed at as well) some have a supportive smile and kind behavior, sometimes guys look at my body in interesting ways, etc.  What I'm trying to say is that there are many reactions, but people will start to notice and act in different ways. I'm at the ambigious middle stage and it sort of sucks.  If you are in the stage, be prepared for these various looks.  It's an unfortunate part of the process, but most people have to go through this.  Good luck and don't let people get to you.   After all, it won't last forever.

I think LtL nailed it. I am also at 4 months, and occupy this strange middle ground of transition. I have used a wheelchair my entire life, and pretty much learned to tune out the stares and comments about my disability, but being in this middle transition stage I have started to become aware of them again. Either people are looking harder, or maybe my self-confidence is taking a hit. Seriously, it might just be the latter -- simply being aware that "hey, I am starting to look different." and then becoming overly sensitive to people staring.

Unless you are Miley Cyrus, I don't think most people like being the object of attention in their daily lives. However, I do think we can all learn something from Ms. Miley. Wherever we go, a lot of interaction is based on how we carry ourselves. Chin up, shoulders back, and a big smile shape a lot of how others will respond - even if we don't always feel that way. That and a little mascara always work wonders

[stephaniec]

A lot of times actually...

people stare at me when Im boy mode , gets really annoying...


btw eeer random,,,I feel like doing straight bangs on my hair....does it make them more feminine?

yes , definitely more feminine.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

thanks I guess Ill give it a try 

[stephaniec]

One lesson I learned very quickly on this trip was 'Who cares?' I really, honestly, totally and completely don't worry about comments from people.

Their opinion means nothing.

Are you happy? That is all that is important.

And you have my first post in 2014!

Yes, I am very happy and I appreciate your professionalism