More about Facebook

[kathyk]

Kariann asked a question last week about fb, and ever since then I've wondered why I'm continuing to have two accounts.  So this morning I posted a question on each account asking if there was any reason I shouldn't combine the two.  This has to be the day I get rid of one account and add my friends to the other. 

It's bothered me for a while that I've kept two accounts, and when Karriann asked the questions about fb I started thinking seriously about it.  The friends from transition are just as important to me as my family, and why should I keep them separated.  It makes one group second class, and as I posted on fb, it creeps me out a lot to separate people, especially anyone who's trans.  I won't stand for people showing any kind of discrimination against me, so why the hell am I doing it on facebook?  God I feel like a total ass for having ignored this problem for so long.

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[suzifrommd]

God I feel like a total ass for having ignored this problem for so long.

Well, to be fair, it probably fell pretty low on your list of priorities. Anyone who is transitioning has to become really good at triage, and consolidation of FB accounts probably doesn't rate well against HRT, electrolysis, therapy, clothing, voice, etc.

[Xhianil]

Well, to be fair, it probably fell pretty low on your list of priorities. Anyone who is transitioning has to become really good at triage, and consolidation of FB accounts probably doesn't rate well against HRT, electrolysis, therapy, clothing, voice, etc.

I agree, Facebook and other social networks fall pretty low on the list when you're caught up in dealing with stuff.

[LizMarie]

I grew up in the 60s and 70s in steel mill and coal mine country. I have many acquaintances from my grade school and high school days with whom I've stayed in contact. I already know how they would react to me coming out as trans because I've seen their reactions to others, both gay and trans, over the years. So I keep the accounts separate. It lets "him" send a polite congrats or happy birthday to stay in touch without adding unnecessary drama to my life. Given that I live over a thousand miles away from where I grew up, I never see any of them. A few live within a few hundred miles of where I live but the odds of encountering them are nil and none unless I went looking and I don't plan to do that.

And if it ever becomes public knowledge and people get ugly, I'll answer truthfully to those who ask. If someone decides to be ugly, they'll get unfriended and blocked, ASAP.

But in the meanwhile, for that particular group, I just let sleeping dogs lie.

[kathyk]

Thanks girls.  It has been very tedious for a few months (18 or them), and like many of you I've been preoccupied with transition that whole time.  In varying degrees it's effected everyone I know, and destroyed just about everything from my old life.  Funny, I knew it was all going to be obliterated, but hoped it wouldn't. 

Because of what's happened in the last month there's really no reason to continue a stupid charade, or try to keep my family from knowing there are a lot of transwomen I love as friends.  So I'll let everything come together, and if it all crashes the debris can be cleaned up.   The junk that remains will be thrown away.

[Nicole]

I started a 2nd account about 5 years ago because most of the people in my life now do not know that I was once a male, they don't need to know and TBH, its none of their business what-so-ever. The ones who know are the ones I want to know.
Somehow one day I started to get a lot of trans people adding me on facebook. I wondered if I should approve them or not and thought it would be better for me not to. After a while I was getting around 20 a day, so thought "Stuff this, I'll start a new account and keep that trans only".

Its worked out quite well, I have a few friends in real life on there, only because they've always known about me like family members and best friends, but thats it.
I post some pics, no where near as many as what I do on my main profile and find that this way I have nothing to worry about.

[stephaniec]

I was reading these post and decided to start a separate account . I have several e-mail accounts and I got confused starting the facebook account and almost sent every thing to the new account. A very close call . I'm not ready to out my self  yet.

[kathyk]

I started a 2nd account about 5 years ago because most of the people in my life now do not know that I was once a male, they don't need to know and TBH, its none of their business what-so-ever. The ones who know are the ones I want to know.

There will come a time when transition is complete, and I also won't want eveyone on my account.  But by then facebook may be a dead mediium.  Kind of like the fate of myspace.

I was reading these post and decided to start a separate account . I have several e-mail accounts and I got confused starting the facebook account and almost sent every thing to the new account. A very close call . I'm not ready to out my self  yet.

I admit, facebook can be a dangerous place if you're not out.  Someone can accidentally out you, or you can say something that seems totally innocent but speaks volumes about your life.