Thoughtful video on coming out

[LordKAT]

http://www.upworthy.com/a-4-year-old-girl-asked-a-lesbian-if-shes-a-boy-she-responded-the-awesomest-way-possible?c=reccon1

[Cindy]

Thank you for that!

[LordKAT]

I thought it had a number of good points. I hope some who are scared to do it get some measure of confidence from the video.

[Cindy]

I thought it had a number of good points. I hope some who are scared to do it get some measure of confidence from the video.

Absolutely!!!!!!!!!!

[Luana]

I'm.. just.. speechless... I mean, thank you so much for this post! This video touched me deeply
A boost in my self confidence, i hope it help others too..
Thank you very much!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Wow really nice video , even though I have come out a lot of times, still gave me strength to do it again...

it really isnt an easy process , but as she said , a person cant live inside a closet...

[TessaMarie]

http://www.upworthy.com/a-4-year-old-girl-asked-a-lesbian-if-shes-a-boy-she-responded-the-awesomest-way-possible?c=reccon1

TY for posting this.  I hadn't seen it in a while & it was really good to remind myself of it again.

Listening to the portion from 4:59 to 6:07 about stress was very timely.

My wife has been quaking with fear (literally - it has been hard for her to stop shaking) over the past few days because she is terrified that the pain in her left breast is an indicator of cancer.  We have both checked her symptoms individually & together and her symptoms do not match any cancer; there are many simpler explanations.  And yet she cannot let go of the fear that is consuming her.

She has reason to be wary of cancer.  She is a cancer survivor (26 years in remission), her mother, grandmother & sister died of cancer in 1996, 2002 & 2007 respectively.  Her brother is her only surviving relative closer than a second cousin.

I am concerned that she will cause herself some harm with the large amount of stress she is placing upon herself.

I am also worried that this stress may be in part caused by my need to transition, set off by a visit to the ER almost 1 year ago (I have absolutely no overt reason for this - but just 'coz I'm paranoid, doesn't mean I'm definitely wrong).  She does not have fond memories of hospitals.  She is also in no way a lesbian.  This is making my transition very hard for her.  (And yet she resents having to cover her chest & has always been jealous of boys' ability to pee while standing.  But we won't talk about that .... yet.)

Her birthday is tomorrow.  Her brother's birthday is in 9 days.  2 days after that will be 1 year after my ER visit.  Anniversaries can subconsciously trigger buried memories.

I feel she is in need of allowing herself a "hard conversation", and I am hoping very hard that she will have the courage to do so this afternoon when she sees her therapist.

Thank you again for reminding me of this TED talk, which I have forwarded to the missus.

Bye for now.

Tessa

[LordKAT]

I hope it helps your wife. Stress is known to have an evil effect on a persons health in many ways.

[TessaMarie]

I hope it helps your wife. Stress is known to have an evil effect on a persons health in many ways.

I hope so too - she says she will make a little time this afternoon to watch the 68 sec segment I asked her to.  I made a point of meeting her for lunch.  She seems a little better, but only a little.  /crossing fingers

Thank you for your kind words