Recently Facebook opened up it's sex category into a gender identity category.
Facebook, the slowest to catch on to anything social, has over 50 labels?
Kinda tells you something right there.
I honestly tried Pumpkin. Just because. Absurdity is fun...
When you think of yourself, is your gender identity the first thing?
When you see people, meet people, cross paths, read things they wrote, is their gender identity the first thing you think of?
Not really, you take in the context and then gender becomes a part of it.
Usually not that big a part of it. It can, but usually doesn't.
The problem with labels and descriptions is that they are always going to be changing and interpreted in different ways to different people.
It's a losing battle to try and define yourself with them.
You can get in the ballpark and that's it.
Where are you exactly? From who's perspective?
That depends on where the other people are who see you.
Sure you can define it as that area over there, but anyone's description is going to sound and be different depending on them.
You want it narrowed down for just yourself?
It's an exercise in futility.
The definitions change and exactly what those definitions mean are going to change.
You will change them yourself.
You can keep narrowing down the make, model, color and goodies you are, but then there's next years model....
Ballpark it and let it go.
I use non-binary, it's close enough, I know myself, and it doesn't come from a description and especially a label.
Even though I do use non-binary, it's only because it works in some conversations. It has no real other use.
Be descriptive, not a description. Use labels for what they are, a general idea, a shorthand for descriptive, not description.
There is a difference. Descriptive is a part of your characteristics.
You don't pick apart the definitions of your characteristics, do you? They're descriptive.
I would hope that my different characteristics are far more important than my gender is.
And they are. Gender takes a backseat to so many things about ones self.
My identity is self, and that takes in everything including my gender.
Gender is a small part of a persons identity.
Your different characteristics are far more important.
And the strengths of each one.
Society tries to make gender identity larger than it is. Don't fall into their insecurities.
And they are insecure about peoples gender, especially if it isn't their idea of what it is.
This even happens around here at times.
But it isn't a part of their normal conversations and reality. Nor is it yours.
When society figured out, actually just talked about, different genders, they put the burden of proof on you.
In other words, they made their problem, yours. It's not yours, it's still their problem.
I understand the need to self identify, but you really run the risk of wasting a lot of time and anxiety over just what it is.
Stop worrying about it.
Be yourself.
Your gender will become self apparent.
It doesn't come with a label or description, it is a part of self.
When I read what all of you write, and I do, what comes across are your characteristics, not your specific gender identity.
Sure it's a part of what this forum can be about, but it isn't the first thing in defining you.
I really like the different characteristics, the diversity of the people here.
I suspect we have more than the general population out there, but hey, that's just perspective.
When I see your name, your avatar, I don't think of your gender identity, I think about you.
All the things I read and hear about. Gender identity is just a small part of it.
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