Quote from: __________ on January 26, 2014, 07:16:41 AM
For me, transitioning is about finding the place where I'm comfortable, and it's a process rather than an end result. It's not necessarily about pursuing an absolute transition from 100% male to to 100% female in every possible area of my life and body so as to achieve a point of finality where I can say, "Yup, I'm finally a girl and I don't need any more transitioning," so there'll always be room for more.
This has been my experience too. I think of it as a journey of discovery rather than a slippery slope, and like any journey there are unknowns and unexpected things to find out that might mean I've found nice place to stop, even if that stop is well before the "usual" destination. I won't be pressured into traveling to a final destination just because someone has an opinion that stopping short of that destination makes me not authentic in some way.
I did the same as others have said - I started out with baby steps, made course corrections when something felt wrong, and kept on going. I had and have no specific time table in mind, I just need to find that place where peace is in my life. My next big change is coming out at work and changing my legal name; i've thought about what that will mean in my life for quite a while and I think it's the right next move for me.
If you had told me 5 years ago that I would be going out dressed as a female on a regular basis and that I would be transitioning to female I would have called you a liar, but yet here I am
Lately it occurs to me.... what a long, strange trip it's been - Grateful Dead
