Angery?

[Jennifer.L]

When I first came out I was scared of people. Scared what they would do and scared what they would think.  But I find now that I'm often angry about the things I would have scared before.  Almost a "What right do they have to do that to me!?"  "What did I ever do to you @$$4013!"  What about your girl?  I mean when someone actually says something like that.  Well I just treat them like a slightly retarded child, who just said something so dumb that I'm struggling to be nice to them.  I find its better to make some one feel like they just said something obviously stupid.  Instead of arguing with them.  But deep down I'm angry that they have the gall to try and hurt me.  Does anyone else get that way?

[Ms Grace]

I guess the difference is whether they are just ignorant or deliberately malicious... it's hard to be angry at the ignorant types even if it's because they've wilfully had their head stuck up their a$$ for most of their life.

[stephaniec]

I worked for 20 years with people that were really messed up in the brain. I worked with these two characters  for 8 years that were extremely screwed up and one the must have been the most extreme case of manic depressive on the medical charts . It was the most challenging work environment . You do your best to ignore. It gets quite taxing and unfair to half to deal with, especially when management could care less. 

[DiDi]

I have known many people with intellectual disabilities (the "R" word hurts). They have taught me that gaffs are completely normal from those who lack experience. I struggle when a comment is puprosefully mean spirited but sometimes it is just ignorance. I once knew a very wealthy, worldly and kind woman who said that when in doubt (as to whether its mean spirited) - try to respond as you suggested - explaining as if the person just didn't know any better and that they couldn't have possibly have meant to be cruel. Good on you for trying to do that. It's really hard and I sure as heck don't do it anywhere near often enough. Thanks for reminding me of a lesson I haven't yet learned.

[suzifrommd]

Does anyone else get that way?

Yes. I'm perpetually struggling with my anger.

[JRD]

I was angry at the world before I started transition.  Since then I gave up on being angry, it doesn't serve a useful purpose for me anyway. Its easier to just go along with the flow, do my thing and not worry about what someone else has to say about it. Its helped a lot with learning to have patience with people as well.