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Transitioning in highschool?!

Started by Parkhockey27, February 05, 2014, 07:56:17 AM

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Parkhockey27

So, my mom finally agreed to letting me start my transition after two years of persuasion and a long heartfelt talk. I was wondering how I should go about easing into these changes in school? Considering no one knows I am trans. I go to highschool and sometimes kids can be harsh. I don't have any close friends because this isn't my home state, meaning i moved just for the school and all my friends are back at home. (All of which know of my being transgender) I am not planning to come out since I don't know what the reactions may be. I am afraid of people calling me out for the deep voice. Is there anything I can do to talk higher without sounding like i am trying to?

I know i should just come out but it would be hard since I have no one to tell. I want to make friends and not have people outcast me out of ignorance. Maybe I will have some friends to tell down the road but for right now I have to deal with the cards I am dealt. And no, holding off on testosterone is not an option.  ???
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Tristan

What they did for me is I was on hormones for a year while I was in psych treatment. When I came back to high school the principle and faculty were made aware of my situation and I was instructed to use the nurses bathroom. That really was the only big issue. As long as you keep out of trouble and don't dress sluty normally your fine. And as far as kids go yes they can be cruel so continuing to present as male while you start hormones (at least in school) is a good idea.
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ath

You could also see if you could switch schools, and present as female at the new school - I've worked in one of the biggest school districts in the country, and I can tell you that as long as you are in a place with multiple schools, you should be able to find a way to go to any school you choose, either through the school district itself, or by simply lying about where you live (using a friends address, grandparents, relatives, etc.).

I went to a school that was literally opposite side of town from where I should have gone to school, where I lived. We just lied about where we lived, using a friend's address.

You may or may not lose friends - you can always keep in touch with social media and just hanging out - but switching schools, depending on your town, could allow you to present as female from the get-go at a new school, where nobody knows you. I suppose where you live definitely matters though. Less populated places wouldn't allow for switching schools. The tolerance in the area towards trans people is also another issue, considering some staff at least probably have to know about your status as trans. Maybe not if you can get your gender legally changed, if it's possible where you live.

Also, you could just stay with the same school and go through with it. The people insulting you are probably going to end up having very crappy lives after high school. That's mostly what happened to those jerks after my class graduated :), and it's only been 7 years.

If you act with confidence, you can get through it just fine. There was a MtF transgirl at my high school (with over 2000 students), and nobody really cared, they accepted it and were fine with it. She passed pretty well too.
"When I think of all the worries people seem to find
And how they're in a hurry to complicate their mind
By chasing after money and dreams that can't come true
I'm glad that we are different, we've better things to do
May others plan their future, I'm busy lovin' you "
-The Grass Roots
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Emi

I would transition while I'm in high school and me too I'm scared by other students' reactions. But I think that as long as they dont realy know you, it can be fine. As ath said, you can lie to them about you.
Ignorance : 1999 - 2013
Accepting myself : December 2013 - Now
Birth of Emi : April 2014
:)
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