Should I bite back? "Letter parents sent to Melbourne psychiatrist

[Eva Marie]

If recording your feelings and events is important to you start a journal. It gives you a place to write that stuff and it also allows you to record thoughts that might not yet be fully baked see how they fit later on. Your "bite back" letter you want to write would be a good way to begin your journal.

[EmmaD]

Depending on how Dr Harte is engaged and what you are after from the consultation(s), he may require a narrative in writing. He does this if you go to him from the get-go and read it while I was with him. It provided him with a fair amount of background that he didn't then need to document himself or I didn't need to remember to cover.

Given where you are in transition, documenting your history (from your perspective as this is what really matters) and where things are at to date might result in you getting more value from your session than having to raise and discuss it in detail. It may also provide some balance perhaps?

I have enjoyed my time with Fintan and post HRT letter, I am still scheduled to see him every 6 months or so to continue our contact and care. 

[stephaniec]

I'm sorry for asking this question. I mean no harm. So what if your father doesn't agree with this doctors opinion.

[Paige0000]

What are you like 12? According to the original post you are even older than me are you not at the point of being able to speak out for yourself?

Sorry asking your age so (rhetorically) bluntly like that is very rude of me but my tone may get "lost in translation" as is often the case with online postings. I am a "jump into the deep end to learn how to swim" kinda gal sorry again if that comment seemed confrontational.

What I am really trying to tell you is :
1. Don't bite back. Why would you "cut your nose to spite your face?" Your parents seem to care for you, don't punish them

2. Stop saying and start doing. When people see for themselves, they'll know for sure what you are. In your element, they will take you more seriously for sure.

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words

That's ok . By being in there life I mean I usually go over to their's to help them out with various things when I'm free (Like watering, taking the dogs for a walk, Vaccumming etc). They are getting too old and have alot of health issues and I'm happy to help them out.

1. Yeah I've thought it over and it would definately be best to not retailate. It's really not worth it.
2. Oh believe me I'am doing . They do see me in my element (all the time actually) but still refuse to accept it.

[Paige0000]

I'm sorry for asking this question. I mean no harm. So what if your father doesn't agree with this doctors opinion.

Then he'll most like try to find another who shares his opinion. He's the type where he has to be right all the time.

[missy1992]

2. Oh believe me I'am doing . They do see me in my element (all the time actually) but still refuse to accept it.

I am sorry 
If its any consolation, my parents eventually came around. At least they act like it

[luna nyan]

Hi Paige,

It is in the nature of loving parents that they will always think of you as a little cherub, regardless of where you are in life, and will always make their concerns more than obvious to you, and make you feel as though you're still aged 6.

That being said, they are now being confronted with something that is, to them, on the complete outer of the norm and outside of their experience.  Reading between the lines, their concern for you is definitely there, and to me, it just seems that they want to be sure that this is absolutely the best way forward for you.

Give them time, do your best not to spite them, live well and show them that you will thrive.  If yiu do that, it will make acceptance a lot easier for them.  Your parents deep fear for you is that you may end up being a caricature of a person, fit only for making appearances on Jerry Springer.