How do I handle this? (NSFW)

[hihellothere]

Hi so I'd like to remain anonymous but I've been out for nearly four years now and I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years.

She is freaked out by any genitalia really but mostly vagina, (really sorry if you don't like that word I don't know an unoffensive way of putting it for guys who hate that)  I used to be 100% okay with this because I never liked penetration and I've suffered with terrible dysphoria and suicide for years so while having sex I never asked and she never offered. I still hate penetration but I wouldn't mind if she touched me every now and then last night I lead her hand down but she didnt seem to get the hint and moved her hand back up. I'm not surprised if I told her I know she'd consider it but I want her to enjoy touching me too and if my genitalia freaks her out it makes me really sad I would hate to have her do something she isnt comfortable doing. My main question I guess is how do I let her know I don't see it as me being female but just us being intimate in general I am a guy and I've finally gotten to that part in my life where I'm content with what's between my legs (packers and prosthetics have done wonders)

[Ms Grace]

Hi - sounds like you might need to have a good honest talk with her. Good communication, especially about sex, is so important in any intimate relationship and yet is often avoided resulting in awkward and/or unsatisfying outcomes. Sort out some boundaries before you get into foreplay, what's OK, what isn't, what is maybe/experimental. Let her know what you like, don't like and hear her out on same. Good luck!