Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 08, 2014, 06:19:37 PM
I hope I don't end up dead eather. im just so desperate for someone to love me for me. I don't have sex with guys cause I want too... I mean I do want to, but mostly the reason I do is cause i want them to want me and want to be with me and ive read online that guys like the girls that put out more than the girls thatmake them wait.
Okay, two things in the spirit of caring enough to be frank:
First of all, if you are so desperate for someone to love you that you are floating around and putting out a bunch sexually as this thread makes it sound, then you need to understand that (1) sex does not equal love and (2) finding love means you need to learn to love yourself enough to be a little more careful and take some care to be safe. Yes, I'm sure lots of guys love girls who put out. And then they move on and treat them like trash. This is called using you. Lots and lots of guys will do it. It doesn't mean they love you. Quite the opposite. Step one to finding love is finding some self love. If that's a problem (as the above quote seems to suggest) then you really need to be spending some time with a therapist working on it.
Second is about dating strategy. Quit reading nonsense on the Internet. Have you never heard of playing hard to get? It's human nature to want what you can't have. I am a pretty plain looking woman. I'm not at all good looking. But I have to find various nice ways to beat off men with a stick. Why? Because I'm a nice, friendly lady . . . that they can't have. In my case, they genuinely can't have me because I'm not interested. But it is always human nature to want what you can't have. If anyone and everyone can have you, then you are just a fungible commodity to be used and thrown away. If you really want people to actually love you, then try stepping back. Make yourself something to really be wanted. Don't put out all the time. And let love develop so that intimacy flows from love rather than trying to have love flow from intimacy.
