There has to be a Catch

[Constance]

I have a profile on TVchix and was contacted by another member, a cis male, who I just met IRL a few minutes ago (in a very public place). He's a photographer who specializes in photographing trans woman and MTF crossdressers. The pics on his site range from glamour to erotic, though not full nudes or pornographic.

He's offered to photograph me free of charge so long as I provide the place. That's one red flag to me. He also is only available Tuesday thru Thursday between 10am and 2pm. To this is another red flag, as it seems similar to the caveats on Craigslist ads when a man is on the "DL" and wants to keep things discreet.

The sunglasses and baseball cap were two more red flags, as they suggest he doesn't want to be recognized.

He also asked if my home could be used as a photo location. Big red flag.

Am I jumping to conclusions that there must be a catch to all of this? Is it possible that there really could be a guy out there who does indeed simply want to take pictures of trans women and CD's just because?

At any rate, I sincerely doubt I'll be taking him on his offer. It just doesn't feel right, and I feel a little guilty as if I'm pre-judging him.

[Constance]

And also, there was a ring on the third finger of his left hand. To me this says married man on the DL.

[Sephirah]

If anyone wanted to do anything with me wearing a baseball cap and sunglasses, I'd think it was a tad creepy.

[CalmRage]

sounds creepy. i wouldn't do it if i were you.

[Jill F]

If you replace "MTF/crossdresser" with "underage cisgirl" in the description, it's like the oldest perv scam ever.  This guy is making his own porn at the very minimum and worst case wants to slip you a roofie.

I had a girlfriend in HS that I had to persuade away from such a person.

Run away screaming now, please.

[Jessica Merriman]

You keep following your gut instincts girl, they are serving you well! You pegged all of the things I would look out for in my life. Congrats! I vote a big definitely creepy, chasing scammer.

[Constance]

Looking back, I probably shouldn't have created an account on TVchix. That was probably my first mistake in this regard.

Yeah, my creep-o-meter is just quivering now.

[Constance]

And as with all my initial dates or meetings with folks, I emailed my 2 adult kids with all the info I have on the person including the passwords to the accounts I used (TVchix and my email account). I also let them know when I  expect to be done with the date/meeting.

Additionally, I give them text message codes that say I'm safe or on my way home, or that I'm in trouble. There's even a preset message in my phone with a little rhyme "999 everything's fine."

If they receive that message or a text/call in which I say I'm fine, they are to call the police. When I first proposed this idea to my kids, I found out that they were planning to make me come up with such a plan anyway.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I would get the hell away from that situation as quickly as possible. Far too many red flags there.

[Beth Andrea]

I vote to keep the creep away from "Little Bo Peep."

But, if you need to experience this (and want to be sure of a good outcome), have one or two strong men in an adjacent room "just in case." The police, even with a good response time, won't be there in time to stop unwanted things from happening.

Roofies take effect faster than you can text "help!" (from experience as a probable victim)

[Constance]

Roofies take effect faster than you can text "help!" (from experience as a probable victim)

Which is one of the reasons that if my kids don't get the code-word text message by a certain time they know to call the police.

[Beth Andrea]

Which is one of the reasons that if my kids don't get the code-word text message by a certain time they know to call the police.

Also known as a "dead man switch"...by the time the switch is thrown, the person is already gone.

Good luck, hope it's just jitters.

[Constance]

No, I'm not going to follow-through on this guy's offer. There's just too many red flags for me.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

No, I'm not going to follow-through on this guy's offer. There's just too many red flags for me.

Good idea.

[Hikari]

Well, the way I see it you made a smart choice.
My (ex) wife did some amateur modeling and this really creepy guy offered to pay her for some work. While she had been paid in the past it was almost always in the form of product, it was very strange to offer cash for non nude photography and he didn't have any product he was pushing he merely wanted "work for his portfolio"...

Well she said sure, but I have to get two of my friends to come along And the shots have to be at the beach (he lived near the beach) and he had to pay our expenses down there. So I went with he being careful to stay armed and not eat or drink anything this guy would offer, while she did the shoot. The only weird thing was he wanted some shots of us together, nothing nude or even suggestive but very weird the way he went about it.

Turns out he just wanted some black girls (my ex was black) on his portfolio and he didn't actually know a single black person, but knew that his portfolio would be taken more seriously if it were ethnically diverse

While this person turned out to not be as dangerous as we thought, he very well could have been. If you ever deal with someone sketchy never go alone, always remain vigilant, and always remain in control. If that person insists on doing anything in private just leave. Nothing is worth you safety or your life.

[Constance]

While this person turned out to not be as dangerous as we thought, he very well could have been. If you ever deal with someone sketchy never go alone, always remain vigilant, and always remain in control. If that person insists on doing anything in private just leave. Nothing is worth you safety or your life.

This is sound advice.