My husband and I are currently long distance for work, and he visited last weekend and we had fun hanging out, reconnecting, and lots of bedroom time. He's above average in size, but has always been comfortable for me before T. I haven't had sex since he left, so of course I went into it expecting things to be a bit difficult since my body isn't made for his size and things tend to go back to what they are naturally.
During sex I made sure we took penetration slowly, since even before he left it was starting to become uncomfortable. Lots of lube, lots of foreplay to be sure I was actually ready. The penetration part was actually pretty easy, but it almost felt like the canal wasn't lengthening like it 'used to' to accommodate his size. It felt like he was hitting my cervix and wasn't able to move around it like he used to because things weren't 'moving' like they should. Afterward, there was some internal pain when I'd pee. It almost felt like my bladder had been bruised a bit, but after a few hours it went away.
I'm not sure what else I could do that's different. I know that T can reduce elasticity and weaken the walls but I haven't read anything about deep penetration. Can anyone think of something to do that might help next time? We can easily control depth but if we can work around it that's what we prefer.