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anybody going to use the new facebook options for gender

Started by stephaniec, February 13, 2014, 05:26:17 PM

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stephaniec

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Sarah Louise

Nameless here for evermore!;  Merely this, and nothing more;
Tis the wind and nothing more!;  Quoth the Raven, "Nevermore!!"
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Adam (birkin)

No...no cisgender person, except perhaps one that's HUGELY into postmodern social justice, is going to put their gender as "cisgender female" or "cisgender male." They're going to pick "female" or "male." So why should trans people be held to a different standard?
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stephaniec

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michelle

I just changed by gender from female to trans woman on Facebook.    I had already my female picture posted.   My family and friends had already known me when I was trying to live as a male.   Being a 67 year old trans grandma who every day takes one more step to "pushing up daisies"  influences my perspectives on life.

I don't have much money to spend upon to physically make changes to my body or two maintain two wardrobes.   I will not wear obvious male clothing anymore.   As far as passing as a women goes,  one minute I pass, the next minute I don't,  the next minute I pass, and so on.   I dress like you see in my picture.   For myself, I have come to realize that my true gender is trans woman or better yet, trans grandma,  and this is about the best I am going to get because no matter how much I am viewed as a grandma,  I have too much history and family that are going to out me as transgender for me to expect to hide it.   I spent too much of my life pretending I was a male for me to expect to pass as a cis female.   

When I was 13, and my body was first waking up sexually and I realized that I was really a female and not the male others thought I was.    In my fear and needing to survive I made the emotional decision that instead of declaring that I was a female then,  that I would deal with it when I was much older.   I waited until I was 53 years old to start living my life as a female, in private at first and then later in public.    Now I wish that at thirteen I would have had the courage to begin living as a female,  by now very few people would ever have know that I had started out life in a male body and would have very little problems passing as a total woman.   Such is life.
Be true to yourself.  The future will reveal itself in its own due time.    Find the calm at the heart of the storm.    I own my womanhood.

I am a 69-year-old transsexual school teacher grandma & lady.   Ethnically I am half Irish  and half Scandinavian.   I can be a real bitch or quite loving and caring.  I have never taken any hormones or had surgery, I am out 24/7/365.
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Miss_Bungle1991

I only got a Facebook page for contacting Noise peeps. If that had never came up, I still would be without a Facebook page. I will stick with "Female". Screw outing myself for no reason at all. All of the Noise peeps I've met see me as just another chick and I will keep it that way.
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stephaniec

I do though have a separate facebook account as Stephanie.
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Hikari

I have two Facebook pages, a Place filler under the name I am going to get and one under my male name. I when I go full time I am going to invite people to the new page and let them decide to come or not. Granted the only people who don't know are people who I hadn't seen in years, but I am making it thier choice if they want to continue this association.

So basically why bother changing that. I am mentally a woman. I won't become one when I get my name change I won't become one when I get srs and change my birth cert because I always was a woman.

So from my point of view I didn't "become" a transwoman when I came out or got on hormones or anything, I was already a woman, just with a birth defect. I will refer to myself as a transwoman for the same reason I will refer to others as ciswomen, because I am making a reference between those who have the medical condition I have versus those who don't. You wouldn't put your Facebook gender to paraplegic woman so why bother putting transwoman?

This isnt a dig a people who do choose that status, I just wouldn't. I could especially see where those who try and solicit dates thru Facebook it could make things easie to have that gender right there.
15 years on Susans, where has all the time gone?
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Miss_Bungle1991

Quote from: stephaniec on February 13, 2014, 06:27:07 PM
I do though have a separate facebook account as Stephanie.

Even if I jumped on the Facebook bandwagon when the rest of my family did, I wouldn't need to do that since I was full time and all that by that point. I use a screenname anyway. There is no way I would use my legal name on there.
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Shawn Sunshine

I simply just leave it as undisclosed because there is no option for intersex or genderfluid
Shawn Sunshine Strickland The Strickalator

#SupergirlsForJustice
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Seras

Why would you want to out yourself?

More like why would you even want to be on facebook. ::)
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Danielle Emmalee

Quote from: Shawn Sunshine on February 13, 2014, 06:43:11 PM
I simply just leave it as undisclosed because there is no option for intersex or genderfluid

Both of those are available
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Danielle Emmalee

To me "transgender female" is not a gender, its a gender with a word added to it giving cisgender people a reason to expect that its any of their business whether someone is trans or not. (eg. "Hey you didn't put trans female as your gender on Facebook, stop trying to fool people, they put the option there for a reason")

All due respect to trans people who for whatever reason want to put their gender as trans
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Shawn Sunshine

Quote from: Caysee Danielle on February 13, 2014, 07:30:54 PM
Both of those are available

Oh! Neat I typed in Two-Spirit under custom and it auto came up as a recognized term for that section
Shawn Sunshine Strickland The Strickalator

#SupergirlsForJustice
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Danielle Emmalee

Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Misato

Sticking with Female here. :) I'm glad more choice is there for those that want it though.
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MacG


AdamMLP

No, although my main facebook account as been "modified" for a long while to not have a gender, and uses "them/they/their" pronouns for me, simply because it's in my female name, as that's what 99.9% of the world knows me as.  I have a separate male account, which will be staying as male, but I only use that to get onto certain facebook groups anyway.

I'm not defined by trans, and I don't need the fact that I am trans following me everywhere and labelling me.  Maybe it would be different if I was out and proud about it, but for all intents and purposes to me, it's just an unfortuate fact of life that I hate.
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RainbowGuacamole

Not so much a comment on whether I will use the new gender settings, but I really find it nifty that you can apparently choose your pronouns independently from your gender identity. For example, it looks like you could be listed as a woman, but choose to use either gender neutral or male pronouns. Not my personal cup of tea, but it's nice to see the option.
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