First date as me, freaking out! UPDATED!!

[Jessica Merriman]

I now need help from all of you. I met a man last Saturday who asked me out on a date in three days. I was open and upfront with him when we first met about my status. He identifies as hetero, but still wants to take me out and find out about me and the transition process. He does not know really what to think about me, but said I was attractive and that did not change. It was just a normal chance meeting in a store so I have really no feeling he is a ->-bleeped-<- or has an agenda. I think we should go to an optometrist office for the date, but oh well that's just me. The problem is WHAT DO I DO? How do I act? How should I dress? Should I be factual or flirty? This is a big moment for me and I am totally lost. I am seriously freaking out here! My logic circuit is fried and I cant think straight. Help please! PLEASE!!!!!

[stephaniec]

I'm not very good at this thing, but  all I can say is take it slow and be yourself

[beren_ts]

Awww. Im so happy for you gurrlll. Wish i could give you some advice, but i can't. Cause im not really into dating yet. After my srs surgery i hope i will:angel:
I hope everything goes well.

[Jessica Merriman]

I'm trying. It just seems like my pounding heart is going to explode the closer it gets. I cant believe I said yes. What was I thinking?

[stephaniec]

I'm trying. It just seems like my pounding heart is going to explode the closer it gets. I cant believe I said yes. What was I thinking?

brave new world

[Jessica Merriman]

brave new world

Starting to think I should have taken the red pill!*giggle* I sure didn't expect this so soon. I have been practicing my date night look all day long. It still isn't perfect! What if I screw up and represent us all badly? What do I do if he actually wants to see me again? ARGH! See, I am so messed up right now. Somebody get me a pillow, glass of water and a big hug.

[stephaniec]

any lovers lanes near you or drive in movie theaters

[Jessica Merriman]

any lovers lanes near you or drive in movie theaters

OMG! I hadn't even thought about that yet! ARGH!

[Kyra553]

For a first date I say normal casual clothes and a touch more then everyday make-up ^_^

Have a blast   

[stephaniec]

OMG! I hadn't even thought about that yet! ARGH!

well, lets see, two mature adults on a date in a big city. Hmmmmm

[Jessica Merriman]

For a first date I say normal casual clothes and a touch more then everyday make-up ^_^

Have a blast   

Thank You so much! I just hope I remember how to breathe again by then.

[Jessica Merriman]

well, lets see, two mature adults on a date in a big city. Hmmmmm

You're killing me Stephanie! Thanks for getting my mind off of the whole thing.*giggle* Love ya girl!

I guess I am scared about Pandora making a prison break!

[stephaniec]

you'll be all right , It will be all spontaneous fun plus I think it's your virgin date.

[Jessica Merriman]

you'll be all right , It will be all spontaneous fun plus I think it's your virgin date.

Thanks Stephanie! Just nervous.

[Hayley]

I honestly can't say anything about new dating as I am happily married. But what I think outfit/make-up all depends on the type of date. Lunch date requires a different outfit then a nice dinner date. You are lovely and he sees that in you so just be yourself. He was attracted to you, he asked you out so that is a positive sign I thing. You just be yourself on whatever date you two have. You'll be fine and he clearly doesn't need to go to the optometrist. You're a beautiful woman and he sees that so Woooooooooo you go girl getting dates!!!

[LordKAT]

Listen to all the cues, not just the ones you want to see. Just be your normal friendly self.

and share the details when you get back.

[Jessica Merriman]

and share the details when you get back.

Still unsure if I want to know them! *giggle*

Thanks Hayley for the advice!

[Boca.Lisa]

Jessica, im no expert but you really need to be you. Wear what you normally wear. Do your hair and makeup like usual. If he's for real then you need to be you.

All the best of luck!

[Jessica Merriman]

Jessica, im no expert but you really need to be you. Wear what you normally wear. Do your hair and makeup like usual. If he's for real then you need to be you.

All the best of luck!

Thanks Lisa!

[Jill F]

No need to freak out.  I found out just last year that being yourself is infinitely easier than expending unnecessary energy pretending to be a dudely dude.

Breathe. Relax.

You'll do just fine.