shopping with the SO

[ToniB]

Hi Girls I just had to ask if other people find clothes shopping with the other half so very very frustrating there you are in clothes heaven surrounded with all these things you would love to feel fondle carress and buy and becouse you are with the other half that does not approve of your feminine half you have to stand there and look bored whilst surupitiously eying up the styles and trends trying not to be noticed .Then she moans that you are no help when she askes your opinion of things and without thinking your inner girl answers for herself and your style is very different from hers and she says I wouldnt be seen dead in that LOL

[Pia Bianca]

Yeah, I totally know that feeling. Went night shopping with my gf and when we arrived we found out that there were only female clothes. I'm still in the closet, so she dosn't know.

I felt bad by pretending I was upset with finding "no clothes for me". I would have had much fun if I hadn't to hide anything. I can't relate to the "inner girl answering" part as I'm very used to pretending to be male. I just love pink but I'm very good in pretending to hate that color.

The inner me still liked that shopping trip. As there were no clothes for me, I was able to follow my gf, pretended to be bored and looked around for clothes she could wear - while thinking about which clothes I'd like to have for myself. That went until she decided that it would be best to park me at the buffet where I had to stay because I didn't want to spoil my "this is boring"-mask.

[Eva Marie]

My soon to be ex-wife never wanted to do her clothes shopping with me, but one time she came to see me in an out-of-town location where I was working and she needed some clothes. So we went clothes shopping since I knew where the mall was and she didn't.

I always thought it would be neat to go shopping with her but the reality was wayyyy different. There I was in female spaces, surrounded by female clothing, and I just wasn't feeling it. I hadn't yet accepted that I am a transsexual so maybe that had something to do with it, and my taste in clothing was dictated mostly by my inner 16 year old girl, and that did not mesh well with my 47ish year old wife's tastes. My wife was not interested in mini skirts or 4 inch heels.

Still, it was educational from the standpoint that I got to see shopping through her eyes. She is not model thin, and finding affordable clothing that was age appropriate and fit well was a challenge; it is a challenge that we both share since I am coming at it with a biological male body. We did get a laugh at the absurdity of the pricing on some of the clothes - a pair of worn looking jeans for $150? Bypass.

I did have a chuckle that I kept to myself when we were looking at shoes. We were waiting for the salesman to bring out some shoes in her size, so I was just sitting in some seats with an apparently bored expression on my face. I love women's shoes and I just had to sit there and keep my thoughts to myself. While i was musing about that a shoe salesman wondered by and made a sympathetic comment to about me, the guy made to sit there in apparent distress while my wife shopped for shoes. Distress is NOT what I was feeling at that moment buddy LOL...... lust for some of the shoes I was seeing was my feeling

[Stochastic]

There are many challenges my wife and I struggle with regarding my transgender issues, but shopping is not one of them. We look forward to our shopping outings with me either as male or female. I prefer to go out as a female, so I can try on clothes and shoes, but I also dig right into the racks when I am looking male. My wife has great taste in clothing, and I like to help her pick out outfits. We go to fashion websites as well and discuss together.

If your SO is not adverse to the idea, my advice is to be open about your interests. Get engaged in shopping even if you are just picking outfits for your SO. You may find a deeper connection with them.

[JulieC.]

I am one of the few lucky ones that can go shopping with my wife.  She asks my opinion when she's looking and I give it and I ask her opinion when I'm looking and she gives it.  She's a way more conservative dresser than I am but it's great help to get her ideas.  She does seem to know what I look good in and whether or not it will fit me. I'm sure I would look like a hooker if left on my own to buy clothes.   

[sandrauk]

I enjoy shopping with my wife, usually in male mode and she wears what I tell her to. Honestly, if it wasn't for me she would be head to toe  in floral prints. As it is she gets lots of compliments for what she wears.

What I do find difficult is waiting outside and biting my lip trying not to say something when the other wives come out and ask their husbands "the question".

I get a long time to do this as my wife finds it necessary to take twenty minutes to take off a top and put  a new one on. I can't wait for the day when I can find out what the hell she is doing in there   

[DiDi]

My SO is willfully ignoring my transgender side but enjoys very much having me along and always asks my opinion on any purchases she makes. I am sooooo with you on what a pain it is shopping in drab when you would really like to dig into your sizes. We are at a "don't ask, don't tell" stage since I came out only a couple of weeks ago so that is extra frustrating. 

[Bookworm]

Last time I had an SO she did not know I was trans, but I think she suspected. I did wear her clothes with her approval on occasion.

[FilaFord]

Luckily my wife doesn't like to shop that often, but recently when she is out doing errands she will come home with "gifts" for me.

I can't tell if she is being sincere or she just wants to humiliate me.  She has come back with some hideous stuff that I know she would never wear and I have no idea why she thinks I would want to wear it.  I'm not the type of girl to wear a leopard print dress from Wal-Mart (or any store for that matter) lol

[thevaliantx]

I'm not sure my marriage will last long enough for me to experience shopping with my significant other.  By that point it will likely just be us friends shopping, but even then she doesn't like shopping for clothes.  She's always struck me as kind of masculine and she will tell you that she is not girly girly. The other day at Walmart I had to look the other way when we were near the women's clothing and I felt SO suppressed doing so