Asked out by a straight guy

[MugwortPsychonaut]

For those of you who are familiar, I posted a message in the break room of my volunteer job, of the tough situation I'm in. Today somebody emailed me. He said his friend worked there and asked if I still needed a roommate. I told him no, I'm actually losing my house now. Then he replied, telling me he wasn't actually looking for a room. Apparently, I had helped him in the store one day, and he wanted to ask me on a date.

I'm very sorry to hear about the house.  I'm not actually looking for a room, however.  I met you one day in the shop.  You were sorting... records, or CD's or something and you showed me something upstairs and I decided to ask you out the next time you work.  Alas, I found out my schedule would not permit me to do that.  My roommate [xxxx] works there and he told me that you had put up a flyer looking for roommates.  So, I went and got your email from it.

I'm not a stalker, so if you want me to lose your email, it's not a problem.  If however, you would like to have a cup of coffee, or lunch, or dinner with someone who'd like to get to know you better, then just let me know :-)

My thoughts on this:

1: I'm generally attracted to women, but I'm always flattered when presumably straight guys hit on me or ask me out.
2: I could counter his offer of a date, with an offer for friendship.
But 3: Lying is a terrible opener.
4: Dinner is a weird first date.
5: But I'm still flattered. It's always nice to be genuinely seen as a girl.
6: Is he a "->-bleeped-<-"?
7: I don't know who his roommate is. I'm racking my melon trying to figure out who he is, and I just don't know!
8: What if he's really sweet, and I'm just being paranoid?
9: But lying's a terrible opener.

[ClaudiaLove]

These seem like exciting news to me . Although i don't have a clear sexual orientation ( it is more on the person than about his/her/their gender/s ) , a straight guy hitting on me would definitely be something  .
I am happy for you and i think you should give it a try , a simple date wouldn't hurt so much , after all , if he is a stalker , he knows many stuff about you anyway . But that is me , i didn't get many dates , so maybe you should hear from other girls for better advices   

[Jessica Merriman]

Congrats! Must be something in the air. My first date with a cis male hetero is tonight at 7pm and I am so excited. I say go for it just be yourself, stay in public and be cautious and safe. I was up front with mine about being trans and he is still interested. If you accept let me know how it goes. Good luck baby!

[JulieC.]

Don't lie...never a good start.  Be up front about everything and see if he still wants to meet for coffee or lunch.  What could that hurt?

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

yeah lying at the start isn't good, but then it seems like small change. It doesn't mean anything, it can be hard to approach people.

All your questions will be answered by going for a coffee with him no? And that not going to hurt is it? Just thinking out loud.

[Ltl89]

yeah lying at the start isn't good, but then it seems like small change. It doesn't mean anything, it can be hard to approach people.

All your questions will be answered by going for a coffee with him no? And that not going to hurt is it? Just thinking out loud.

I agree with this. 

[MugwortPsychonaut]

I'm not really into guys, though. I just want to learn to differentiate between awkward and creeper.

But goddamn, it's always flattering when straight guys are into me!

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

Well if you are not into guys then the difference doesn't matter and it would not be nice to string somebody along. You shouldn't make him feel that you are into him if you aren't, even if you think there is something that you can learn by doing that.

Sorry, I thought there was possiblity of you liking him, as you said

1: I'm generally attracted to women, (I took the generally to infer 'but not always'.)
8: What if he's really sweet, and I'm just being paranoid?

If you are definitely not into him, it would be unfair on him to go.

Akira

[Ltl89]

I'm not really into guys, though. I just want to learn to differentiate between awkward and creeper.

But goddamn, it's always flattering when straight guys are into me!

If there is no chance of anything happening, you probably shouldn't go.  I'm sure he wouldn't take rejection personally when it's more of an orientation thing.  Although, you could always leave the door open for a new friendship too.  Good luck!