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Started by Rukian, February 15, 2014, 08:06:45 PM

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Rukian

I have always felt different like I didn't fit in my whole life especially through High School. I never had a group of friends I was always by myself. I do have a select few friends actually 3 to be exact my whole entire life. This is still in the thinking stage. I remember playing with my sisters toys sometimes and wanting to play with her friends but I always liked doing guy stuff like video games for one. I did band and everything but not really normal guy stuff. I do love cars and I know how to change my oil and brake pads etc... But that's not the point. These feelings inside me are weird and I believe you will tell me that is normal. The fact that I have a close circle of friends and they know everything about me is mind boggling. It would be very hard to tell them hey I am having gender identity problems at the age of 27 but have felt it my whole life. I am posting is because I feel like I should "let it out" to relax a bit. This has been my first long official post. lol
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Tristan

Let it all out. Your in my age group by the way. And I must say to talk about things or post it makes you feel better
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Jessica Merriman

Transition and gender questioning do not mean you cant enjoy things just like before. Even though I am transitioning I still enjoy rappelling, camping, hiking and other stuff I did previously. A good therapist with gender experience can help out a lot with the feelings you are having. You have to go with what your heart is telling you or you could end up with a life of regrets or "what if's". Don't do that to yourself. You owe it to YOU not everyone else to figure out what to do. Good luck. :)
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JaneNicole2013

Quote from: Rukian on February 15, 2014, 08:06:45 PM
It would be very hard to tell them hey I am having gender identity problems at the age of 27 but have felt it my whole life.

I am 49 and I feel this way about coming out to my school and college buddies.

As for interests, I know plenty of gals that know their way around a car engine better than any guy, so like what Jessica said, you can enjoy what you want. I'm transitioning and I enjoy the occasion tabletop wargame or first person shooter. It just makes the guys feel worse knowing they got beat by a girl, but it's also a great way to practice flirting skills :).
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." -- Joseph Campbell



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Aina

Your not alone, My story is very similar I have a very few select friends that I sortaish hang out with, I am just a tad bit older then you turned 30 in august and that just happens to be when I was like. "Ok I need to figure this out"

I've been struggling myself to come out to my family and friends or anyone I trust enough in RL about this "desire to be a female" since as far back as I can remember.

It isn't easy and will take a lot of self discovery. I suggest doing research, read other peoples stories. You'll find a lot people will share common experiences.

Also there are plenty of cis and transwomen who enjoy playing video games, cars, bands ect. So don't worry about that!

Heck I know I really enjoy video games.  :laugh:
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Colleen♡Callie

My dysphoria has been unbearable for the last several years until I couldn't stand it.  I was still trying to resist and keep it secret but this year, all through January it all came spilling out finally.

I'm 30 and came out.  I simply explained that I have never felt like I belong in my body and that I've known I was meant to be a girl since 10.  That's all it took.  It's out of the blue to them, but you just tell them you've known for as long as you've known, and this isn't sudden for you.
"Tell my tale to those who ask.  Tell it truly; the ill deeds along with the good, and let me be judged accordingly.  The rest is silence." - Dinobot



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