I am already out to quite a few friends, but not to my boss or immediate family. I have been on hormones for six months now, need to see my endo, and promised myself to be fully out before I see him again. I don't plan to go full-time for another six months, but I wanted to give everyone time to adjust and to experience the process as much or as little as they want.
So, here are how the emails are going out. I know I should come out in person, but I'm not really good at in-person discussions like this and can better express my ideas in writing. I am, after all, a writer by trade (okay, more of an instructional/technical writer, but a writer nonetheless).
Today - My boss
Sunday after my 14 year old goes back to his mom - My ex #2
Thursday - Old kids and their mom (25, 23, 21) - might postpone since their step-father is in the hospital
Next Sunday (after I gage my kids' reactions) - My mom
Wish me luck! Not sure I am going to come out to my 14 year old son or not or try to maintain my male/androgynous persona for a while still. I'll discuss that with his mom. I'm not worried about him as much as I am his friends' parents. I still feel compelled to tell her because she is pressuring me to become an adult scout leader and go camping with him but, well, it's the BSA and as I oft remind her, they take moms as leaders too and I feel like I already served my time (I was the pack and scout leader for six years and my involvement in scouts is why I didn't transition four years ago; when my son dropped out, I took that as my opportunity and now that he's back in I'm determined not to let it stop me).
So, wish me luck. I'll probably also email my childhood friend, although we haven't spent much time together lately.
Jane
