Super nervous....

[KaitlynLovesEmma]

 Hi my name is kaitlyn.... I am here because I fell in love with a transgender. I met Emma as chad a very girly man who I crushed on immediately... After months of haircuts( I am a hairdresser) I finally have him my phone number. We talked and talked and he told me about Emma... Which I guess I only partially understood. Anyways we have officially been dating for about four months... Everyday she looks more and more like a girl... But I still struggle with seeing her as a girl. I really want to be super supportive and completely accept everything with no problems but it's just so hard. I know Emma is the love of my life. I have no doubt that we will be together forever but I am jut trying to sort through my fears and feelings. Here is everything that runs through my head... I will never be married in my church by my preacher... We will never have a child of our own ( I already have a three year old) my family will never accept her for who she is. I am a church going girl and it's hard to find a church that accepts her which I think is sooooo wrong! My fears are all superficial I guess but I've never known anything but my family and they don't approve. God out Emma in my life and told me to love her. And that part comes so easy. It's accepting her the way she is that's hard. Because for me i am not very girly and that's ok. I am ok with my gender but rarly act like a girl. I am so glad I found this site because I have already read some stories and they help me understand my love a little better. I just want to understand what she is feeling. Oh and my other fear... I have never been attracted to females... I mean I experimented like all teenaged girls but I have always dated boys. Her soul is what I love. I don't care what her body looks like but I fear when she looks more like a girl I won't be as attracted to her. I am very confused you see. I love Emma forever but what about her body? How do I cope? Thank you everyone for letting me be here and read your stories to help me find my way.



~~~ kaitlyn ~~~

[Jessica Merriman]

Hi Kaitlyn! There is absolutely nothing to be nervous about while you are with us. We all know and understand your situation completely, so you are not alone and we are here to help however we can. I want to thank you personally for standing with and supporting Emma. We all desperately need people who care and support us through all the trails and tribulations we go through on a daily basis. You have a great mindset when you talk about loving her soul and that is so heart warming and mature on your part. I understand about your fears of not being so attracted as her feminization continues, but sadly I do not have a good answer for that. I only hope that with more time you can overcome or at least make a good decision about what to do if that becomes a more pressing issue. A good start would be to read the many stories in our "Significant Others" topic. They have helped a lot of people understand what drives a person to have the urgent need to change their bodies so dramatically. Trust me, it IS a need and a driving force that must be dealt with. Many of us (myself included) get to a point of "live or die" because of the urge. When you get 15 postings you will be able to use the Personal Message feature. I welcome you to PM me if you ever want to talk to someone about this irresistible urge and what effects it can have on a person. I have often found that the more knowledge someone has on an issue, the easier it is to make decisions with understanding.

[Jamie D]

Don't be nervous, Kaitlyn!  They say "love is blind," and when it hits you just have to go with the flow.

We have a board here set aside for "significant others" of transpersons.  I think you are already aware that there are some special hurdles that can pop up in this type of relationship, but with true hearts and a solid understanding, the hurdles need  not be walls.

These links will help you navigate the site:

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
  
• Age and the Forum
  
• Reputation rules
  
• Photo, avatars, and signature images policy
  

Glad you came here.  Invite Emma too.

[KaitlynLovesEmma]

Thank you guys so much.. I actually got excited and told Emma and she was like yea I found that site when I first started HRT hahah she's been on them for a year going to check out sig others board now thanks!!!!