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[alena]

Hi all,

Just want to introduce myself. My name's Alena and I'm a MTF Trangender who's just started the transition process. The past month has been interesting to say the least. It's been full of questions, thoughts, emotions, etc. I 've come out to my girlfriend who has been very supportive. I'm seeing a therapist and doing lots of planning and preparation with reagrds to what I want to do and how to go about it. Susan's Forum has been really helpful and given me hope and comfort. It's an exciting and scary time with lots of barriers I have to overcome. Will I complete my journey? I'll give it my best shot and see what happens

Alena x

[V M]

Hi Alena 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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V M

[Jessica Merriman]

A big warm welcome to the family Alena! You will find you are not alone at all and transition is a new exciting time in your life. You now have a LOT of caring, compassionate and supportive people now who want to see you succeed and be happy and healthy. Feel free to rant, vent, share good news (we like that a lot), learn or just have some distracting fun and meet the rest of the family. We have all had the same emotions, struggles and challenges you have had so we understand you completely. The information you get here is invaluable because it comes from REAL people at all the stages of decisions and transition. You will find out what works, or doesn't with great tips and suggestions along the way. Here is a BIG HUG  to welcome you and make you feel right at home!

[alena]

Thanks VM & Jessica!

I'm glad I'm not alone and there are girls in the world just like me! Wish I stared the journey earlier, but that's life! Hopefully I'll have lots of good posts to share with others in the near future.

Alena x

[Trillium]

Hey Alena, welcome to the forum. "hugs"

Glad to hear your transitions going well and your getting acceptance and support from those close to you.

[alena]

Thanks Trillium!

Coming out to my girlfriend was one of the toughest things I've ever done. It took about fifteen minutes just to get the word 'transgender' out of my mouth. Next up is my parents, which will take even more courage and lots of prep work.

[Trillium]

Well I hope it goes well, rejection from parents must be one of the hardest to deal with so it make sense to feel uneasy in coming out to them. I even felt uneasy telling my mum recently I'm wanting to go on hormones and I've been wearing girls clothes and make up around her for years. But I think most parent will (should) be concerned for your well being, so as long as you let them know your OK and are happy to have found yourself that's as much as can be done.

[Gina Taylor]

Hi Alena and welcome to Susan's! 

I'm sure that you'll get a lot of good information form a lot of great people here that will help you along with your journey into womanhood. 

[alena]

Thanks Gina/Trillium,

I'm not too afraid of rejection from parents as I'm quite independant. I've come to realise that I can't spend the rest of my life pleasing them and living up to their expectations. When they're gone it's just me and a life of regrets. I hope your process goes well too and you find the happiness we're all looking for!

Alena x

[justjournalhonestly]

Oh my God Alena, so correct, I feel the same way. Glad dad is still calling so far, but he is in firm denial and mom seems to be distancing herself. However, as you say

I can't spend the rest of my life pleasing them and living up to their expectations

because it has slowly been killing me for far too many years.

[alena]

Hi Toni,

I guess acceptance always takes time. Those that really love you will accept you for who you are eventually. My partner and I have found that communication is key as there are so many questions that both sides of a relationship have when we come out. I hope your parents do accept you as support from family makes things easier.

Alena x

[JenniferGreen]

Hi Alena,

We'll done on your coming out.  You are very brave and that honesty and bravery can only be good in the end.  It will take time for things to settle. I am thinking of coming out to my friends now but trying to work out who first.  I think I will wait until my selection is clear and then just do it.  I don't see the point in hiding myself any longer.  You have my support whatever happens. Hugs!

Jennifer

[justjournalhonestly]

I hope so too, but I am lucky as my two adult children are 100% supportive as is their mom (ex-wife) and that trio is HUGE for me. Plus my brother gets it as well as two of my best life long friends. So I would love mom and dad to "tolerate" it as I think they will see and understand it better if they do, but I can make it without them if need be. So I think to this point I am luckier than most, so I definitely feel fortunate. Plus with so much support here I am able to come here for a half hour and feel connected to an understanding world.

[Jamie D]

Nice to meet you Alena. 

[MalorieG]

Hi, Alena

Thanks for replying my intro--wanted to come say hello to you, too!

I really appreciated your description of the transition process as a journey.  I just recently came out to my brother, the first person I ever told outside therapy, and I told him how I'm on a journey right now, full of questions, and I don't know where it will take me, whether I will end up transitioning or not or how far, but I'm glad I've taken these steps and I feel so much better so far just for having asked the questions.

Oh, and yeah, actually saying the word "transgendered"?  Took me what felt like a minute, probably really less, of struggle, heart pounding in my throat, before it spilled out of my mouth, like a dam breaking.  Yeesh!

Exciting and scary--you got that right 

I'm looking forward to getting to know you better!

Malorie

[alena]

Hi Malorie!

I'm not sure where my journey will take me too. Six weeks on from my realisation of what I want to become and my feelings are as strong as ever. I thought it would go away this time, but it looks like its staying. I question my journey each day. At night I dream of what I want to become and how I'll live my life, then the cold light of day forces a sense of reality on to it all! It is one hell of a ride. My next step is electrolysis on Thursday, then seeing a surgeon about a trachea shave a few days after. Exciting times ahead

Alena x