It took me 15 years, but I finally learned that although its HARD to do, the best thing to do is to summon the courage to tell the person. Mind you, I still tend to do it in writing because it lessens the pain of a rejection. But, sometimes you find your feelings are reciprocated, and it's oh-so awesome. Then again, sometimes you get rejected. Sometimes you can save a friendship at that point. Other times you can't. And sometimes they may reject you initially, and then when you dust yourself up and move on they realize you were something special and that they do indeed have feelings for you, or at least want to be your friend. In fact. If I were to do a tally. I think in the past 15 years I've told 9 people I had feelings for them. Of those 9 people, the only people I'm not currently friends with are 3 of the 4 people I ended up in a serious long term relationship with.
