I was just wondering, after you've transitioned, do any of you ever tell anyone you're a trans person? I'm addressing this question to any trans person of any gender, whether you're FtM or MtF.
I've noticed that a lot of us (myself included) would prefer to live their lives as their preferred gender as though they were always that gender, not as born the unwanted gender then became the other, which is basically the point of transitioning anyway.
Some trans people even go on to be activists for the LGBT community and some don't mind people knowing about their prior gender and that they've transitioned but me personally, as an MtF I'd prefer to live my life as female, not as having transitioned... all though I did...
Well, when it comes to meeting new friends and dating, is it even a good idea to tell those people then? My female friends, I just may as they are supposed to be my friends anyway. But my boyfriend or whoever I date, I just may not because that's where things get dangerous. I've noticed in one of Kat Blaque's YouTube videos, she was talking about how telling a guy she's trans is prone to getting a lot of transwomen killed because the man was so attracted to this woman and then he finds out she was once a male, he gets so angry and putoff by that that he ends up murdering her. God forbids that happens to me.
How about this: I will tell very few people as possible. My gender status will be like my Social Security Number. It's just not something you tell people. Well, funny I should put it that way because I'd rather give people my SSN than to tell someone I used to be a man.
The other reason is, I, unfortunately, have had my experience with getting clocked on quite a few occasions and I did not like or appreciate it at all. I've also seen people point to transwomen and say "Oh, she's really a man!", tell transwomen "You are a man!" and all that other garbage (same with telling FtM people they're still women) and that would just anger me on so many levels. "Anger" wouldn't even be the word to do it justice! I'm just afraid that even if I tell someone I think is my friend that I'm a transwoman, they might tell one person, who ends up telling the next person and so on and so on. Well, ideally I would want the "There is no way in Hell you were born male," response.
But then again, I don't want to live as a "transgendered woman" just as a naturally born female and by that I mean, I want to be gendered as female everywhere I go, on the phone, and to go to the women's bathrooms and changing rooms without anyone giving me a second glance, and to walk down the street without a man staring at me because I'm not walking right or something is giving me away (I've also had that experience and I didn't like it) or that they're trying to read my gender, and all that other garbage.
That being said, unless I have a super good reason for doing so, I will tell very few people as possible or just won't tell people I'm trans at all. Just a courteous side-note, if I have said anything in this post to offend anyone, I apologize. I'm open to your thoughts and opinions about this matter.
I'm just ready to leave my male past behind once and for all.
