we all fear the talk with our fathers , but do we make harder than it could be

[RosieD]

I sent my old man a text message that read exactly like this (had just sent his annual happy Christmas, sorry I don't give a damn text): And to you Dad. I should probably let you know that I have gender dysphoria and have begun transitioning.

Dear old Dad being the alcoholic no hoper that he is sent back: Hope u choose a nice dress in the best possible taste.

So I thought I had best clarify things with: Congratulations. I think that may be the single most inappropriate response I've had to the news so far. I think you had better leave it until you are sober before you respond though I appreciate that may take a few years.

Rosie

[fusstangtroy]

My sister helped pave the way with my Dad. She primed him about my gender in a vague sort of way. Then I walked into his house, he looked me over, a once up and down, and was kinda silent. I assumed he was-Furious, disgusted, or in shock. A few hours later, sitting at his kitchen table (a very long few hours), He said 'I see you've made some changes, I can't say I understand, but I know you're smart enough to know what is best for you. It may take some time to call you your new name, or just get used to having a daughter, but be sure you are always welcome, and you are same part of the family you always were.'
We've chatted a few times about gender, and transition, but he seems to not really care about the details. He does however, make me feel welcome, and loved as he always has.
I cannot speak for every parent, as I've read some horror stories, but approach coming out to parents with the mindset that their love is unconditional.

Very nice story .My wife and daughter are my rock .When you have family on your side your one lucky girl .. But for the girls that are on there own. if i can do anything just type something my way ...aka sara

[fusstangtroy]

I never met my father and most probably never will. At least, that spares me of one more awkward conversation.

My story started kind of like yours ,did not know my father till i was 22 , In life you only move forward ! If your future hands a chance to know your father perhaps the stars will line up . Love yourself and others will follow .aka sara

[fusstangtroy]

I sent my old man a text message that read exactly like this (had just sent his annual happy Christmas, sorry I don't give a damn text): And to you Dad. I should probably let you know that I have gender dysphoria and have begun transitioning.

Dear old Dad being the alcoholic no hoper that he is sent back: Hope u choose a nice dress in the best possible taste.

So I thought I had best clarify things with: Congratulations. I think that may be the single most inappropriate response I've had to the news so far. I think you had better leave it until you are sober before you respond though I appreciate that may take a few years.

Rosie

Thanks for write your story . I might just be someone in computer world but i wish for you to look for the good in your transition .Remember your 1 and others have there place in your transition . We sometimes forget that people outside of our family can bring a much needed positive role in our lifes . There seems to be very loving family in this site . reach out and see who responses .... aka sara

[allisonsteph]

I never came out to my father, I could never come out when he was still alive.

After my father died I did some deep reflection. I realized he was miserable his entire life because he never got what he wanted out of life. I refuse to let that happen to me. That is when I started to seriously thinking of transitioning.

[fusstangtroy]

I never came out to my father, I could never come out when he was still alive.

After my father died I did some deep reflection. I realized he was miserable his entire life because he never got what he wanted out of life. I refuse to let that happen to me. That is when I started to seriously thinking of transitioning.

Thanks for your story . With that insight of living your life to the fullest thats great .I am 50 myself and maybe the wisdom we have gained with our age we can share with others . Theres times when just warm hello make someones bad day bearable . But then again your NEVER TO OLD  to find something new and interesting ( finger nail polish, or a skirt ) .aka sara