Susan's Place Logo

News:

According to Google Analytics 25,259,719 users made visits accounting for 140,758,117 Pageviews since December 2006

Main Menu

How do you rate your progress in your transition?

Started by Joan, March 17, 2014, 08:17:29 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Janae


I'll shoot

I've already accepted myself it took a lot of wasted time. Socially I'm nowhere near going full time yet. I wish I was closer. My job is secure I've been there going on my second year. I've had my hair since high school. Hair removal sucks. I financed laser on my face during a sale I pay on it monthly. I'm 2 sessions in third one is in 2 weeks. I still need to do full upper and lower body but I'm not even close to saving enough for it. The worst part is not being able to get to save for ffs, bbl, and breast implants. My rental assistance took one look at my recent pay stubs and jacked up my out of pocket expenses on top of having to pay for health insurance that won't cover the injections my old one did. At 32 I'm sick of this slow transition mentally emotionally and physically. I want it to be over so I can focus on other things besides this.


  •  

Miss Clara

I love the OP's outline format so I'll use it, too.

I've been in transition MTF for 2 years and am looking at taking that big, big confirming step to reconstruct my genitals next month.  Still, there's a ways to go in several areas.

Self-acceptance 100%
I accept myself completely.  It took most of my life to come to that point, but I'm finally being honest with myself.

Coming out 100%
Everyone who cares knows.  I have been living full-time as a woman for over a year now.

Hair removal 90%
I have undergone 140 hours of electrolysis since Nov of '14.  That's 12 complete clearings of my face and neck.  I estimate that another 40 hours will be needed to totally eliminate ever having to shave my face.  I still have some unwanted body hair, but I'll wait another year before paying to have it removed.

Voice training 75%
My voice was never very deep, but it still gives me away at times.  I keep working on it everyday.  Eventually, it will become automatic.  Much of it is learning how to speak as females do.  Pitch is okay.

Socialization as female 90%
I still have a little work to do here, but I'm much more comfortable around people than I ever was as a man.  I like to get out and feel the joy of being a woman.  I feel self-secure and confident.  I recently attended my high school class reunion.  Most people (women mostly) accepted me without reservation.  The guys were rather restrained.

Hormone changes 75%
That's just a guess, or a hope.  I've been on T-blockers and estrogen for 2 years.  The changes are substantial except for fat redistribution.  My breasts have developed naturally well beyond expectations and continue to grow so I don't plan to have BA if I can reach a C-cup.

Hair 50%
I had significant MPB at the time I began my transition.  I've had one hair transplant already and will have another in just a couple of days which will establish a feminine hairline.  My hair will never be thick and beautiful, however, so wigs will still play a role in my life.

Wardrobe replacement 100%
I have no male clothes any longer, and I wouldn't wear them if I did.

Future employment prospects 0%
I hope that my work life is permanently behind me.

Overall I feel very good about my transition.  A big factor is that my spouse is staying with me.  I know, I'm very lucky that way.   :)
  •  

iKate

I figured I was due for an update.

Self-acceptance 80%
I cry when I think I can never carry a child of have normal female or any reproductive function ever again once I go through SRS. This makes me feel less real than I am.

Other than that I'm fine. I may opt for some FFS and body contouring but I'm letting the hormones work for now.

Coming out 99%

Nearly everyone knows and I am not really hiding it. But there are one or two people I just won't be able to tell.

Hair removal 80%
Laser is awesome. I've been smooth for over a month with just some small patches.

Voice training 100%
I've had surgery and my voice is read as female 100% of the time. Mission accomplished.

Socialisation as female 90%
Getting into the groove. The women I hang with LOVE me. My friends love the new me too. I'm a fun gal to be around and I'm good company. Hanging out with guys not so much. It's kinda boring and some guys hit on me sometimes. The conundrum with hanging out with guys is they will either not be open with you and walk on eggshells because you're a girl or they will be open with you because they view you as a dude.

Hormone changes ???60%
My face and body shape are constantly improving but I have far to go. Boobs are almost C cup. Hoping I will be a firm C or small D.

Hair 50%
My hair is shoulder length and it looks like a woman's hair but want long hair.

Wardrobe replacement 90%
I just have to donate my old clothes.


Future employment prospects 90%
I'm stable in my current job but I could find another if I wanted to very easily. I've interviewed to test the waters and they like my personality very much. I'm very personable. I also am very good at what I do. But at the back of my mind I always think I'm never good enough. This is independent of transition though.
  •  

Miyuki

I posted in this thread about a year ago, so I think it's time for an update...

Self-acceptance 99->100%
Whatever lingering doubts I had have all but disappeared. I've been full time for over a year, and going back now is not something that even crosses my mind.

Coming out 100->101%?
In my last post I said I was 100% on this, but there were a few important people I left out. More people know now then the last time I posted, and I guess there are a few people who still don't know who I might considering getting back in touch with at some point. Maybe the best way to put it is, that my being transgender is not even remotely a secret, and anyone who cared to find out about it would be able to do so.

Hair removal 5->33%
Definitely made some progress here. :) My facial hair is on it's way out, and I've made some significant progress on my arms/legs/feet/hands. 33% may even be an underestimate, but there are several areas on my body I haven't even started to work on yet that may be difficult to deal with depending on how much they respond to laser.

Voice training 50->95%
I'm very confident with my voice now and it's very passable. The main issue now is deciding whether I want to have voice surgery to try for a completely effortless voice in the female range, or learn to live with the shortcomings my current voice still has.

Socialization as female 5->50%
I'm comfortable socializing as a woman, but I haven't made a lot of new friends since transitioning. Making new friends has always been hard for me, so that's something I still need to work on. But even so, I'm way more comfortable in social situations than I ever was as a male.

Hormone changes 25->90%
My face seems to look more passable than it did last year, though I couldn't in a million years tell you what changed. ;) There are still some structural issues that I think need to be dealt with by having FFS for me to be completely happy with my appearance, but that hasn't stopped me from passing or anything. My body is still pretty big, but I have had some additional breast development and fat redistribution which has made a lot of difference. But, I still have way too much stomach fat, not enough hip fat, and my breasts are only barely large enough to not seem weirdly small for someone my size. I'm fairly certain hormones have done most of what they're going to for my appearance by now, so I'll probably end up eventually having some fat transfer done as well. I'm hoping I can do it for my breasts too, because I really dislike the idea of implants, and I don't need or want huge breasts. Just a C cup would be nice. ;)

Hair 50->90%
I usually don't do anything to special with my hair, but I keep it looking nice most of the time. I had my hair cut with bangs last year, which proved to be a mistake... Keeping them looking neat was just too much of a pain to deal with (especially for someone who never got their hair cut more than once ever six months), so I've been growing them out again. I will probably be able to get my hair cut back to even length at my next appointment... in six months or so. ;) My temples have gotten maybe a little better over the past year, but they still make my hairline look more masculine. I don't ever tie my hair back in a way that would leave my forehead uncovered, because it just looks really bad to me. I'm now thinking hairline advancement is the way to go to correct this, so that's another reason I'll be looking into FFS at some point in the not too distant future.

Wardrobe replacement 5->75%
All of my clothes are proper women's clothes now, but I'm still very heavily into wearing jean/t-shirt or jean/sweater outfits. I'll probably try to buy a few dresses in the spring when I have a little more money to spend...

Future employment prospects 0->99%
This is not really how I wanted to get my first job, but it's looking very likely I am going to start working as a Personal Care Assistant for my dad within the next month or so. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease earlier this year, and so he needs someone to keep an eye on him, make sure he's eating and drinking enough, help him exercise, drive him to places he needs to go, etc., and my mom is too busy working to do it herself. It was either hire me, or bring someone else in to do it, and even though my parents and I have had our disagreements over the past few years, thankfully they also recognized how badly I needed this...

So yea, a lot of big numbers on the chart this time. :) I'm feeling about as good about the future right now as I can ever remember feeling.
  •  

Ooh, ooh... can I play???

Not going to do individual fields because even cis-gender people feel this and that about themselves aren't perfect.

With that said, I live full-time and never get mis-gendered so yeah... I beat the last boss on level 9.  I still need to go back through some levels and pick up some missing power-ups and bonus stars to get 100% achievements though.

Total Score: 83.9% on Medium Difficulty (Age 37)


  •  

DeeM

Found this old thread and loved reading it through so thought I'd add to it and see if any of you ladies had any updates.....  Im sure there are more than me who'd love to read them......for my own part......I'm just starting out on transition after 58 years so I'm almost 0% on everything ️but finally beginning to realize who I am and making the first moves to be me!! I cannot wait to be able to post an update as I move forward.
Let's hear how you're all doing......
Hugs
D
xo
  •  

Karlie Ann

I'll bite.  My transition is happening sooooo much faster than I expected.  I swing wildly between wth am I doing and I want this more than anything.  I feel like I'm on a wild ride and I'm hanging on.  I see a doctor about hormones on May 6, and could be on hormones soon after that.  My plan at this year is to be out by the end of 2017.  It's terrifying...but wonderful at the same time.  I guess I'd rate myself somewhere in the middle at this point.
Your current situation is not your final destination.
  •  

galaxy

Quote from: galaxy on June 16, 2015, 04:21:25 PM
Today, 30month hormones, breast augmentation

Self-acceptance 30%
After reaching around 60kg and breast surgery its better
Self-esteem 60%
Coming out 100%
Hair removal 40%
Got more testo with the injections ... more facial hair, more body hair  :-\
Voice training 50%
Socialisation as female 70%
Hormone changes 10%
Still no major changes since over 2 years.
Hair 0%
Growth stopped at 25cm (around 10inch)
Wardrobe replacement 100%
Future employment prospects 90%

Average: 55%
So, its a bit better ... give me another few years, its a long way to myself

Self-acceptance 0%
After 3 failed surgeries and failed HRT. No.
Self-esteem 30%
Coming out 100%
Hair removal 40%
No progress.
Voice training 50%
Socialisation as female 70%
Hormone changes 10%
Still no major changes since over 3 years.
Hair 0%
Growth stopped at 25cm (around 10inch)
Wardrobe replacement 100%
Future employment prospects 90%

Average: 49%
Failed.
  •  

SofiN

Oh this thread is alive again! I'll give it a shot..


Self-acceptance 80-90%
Doing well on this front. I've fully accepted that I'm a woman, I'm just struggling on a few doubts that make me wonder if what I'm doing will work out.

Coming out 100%
Fully out to everyone I know, and also legally. Pushed this step pretty fast and it was worth the initial struggle.

Hair removal 10%
Nothing done physically yet, but I have been looking into deals on places such as Groupon to hopefully start laser in a few months.

Voice training 20%
Doing some self training when I can. I'm getting pretty good at varying pitch during talk but a lot more to work on.

Socialisation as female 50%
I'm slowly getting into the hang of this. At first it was very awkward but I actually feel a lot more at ease and social than I did before coming out.

Hormone changes 30%
Have had a good start so far. Skin is softer, my body shape has started to change and my boobs are now starting to develop quite fast. They are having a good effect mentally as well, my emotions feel more free (although a month ago I had some very crazy mood swings, seems to be settling now)

Hair 70%
Growing it out at the moment, but it is a good length and I've gotten a good care/styling routine down already. (Going past shoulders right now, I'm aiming for boob height)

Wardrobe replacement 80%
All my old clothes are gone! Only have female stuff now, and I'm still collecting new things from time to time. This will never reach 100% though.

Future employment prospects 30%
I'm currently volunteering at a few places, to boost my chances of getting into paid work. It seems to be helping my confidence so this is definitely progress for me.

Average: 53%
  •  

toshi

as japanes girl i feel great
i am hrt 36 week
23 years
i am still looking for a first name that near my own -toshihiko- right now i an toshi

  •  

Jacqueline

Quote from: toshi on April 16, 2016, 02:47:08 PM
as japanes girl i feel great
i am hrt 36 week
23 years
i am still looking for a first name that near my own -toshihiko- right now i an toshi

toshi,

It's great to hear you are doing so well.

I wanted to welcome you and share some links all members should receive when they first post. The have welcome information and rule of the site. Please take a moment to read through them if you have not done so yet:

Things that you should read






Once again, welcome to Susans. I hope you find what you are looking for.

With warmth,

Joanna
1st Therapy: February 2015
First Endo visit & HRT StartJanuary 29, 2016
Jacqueline from Joanna July 18, 2017
Full Time June 1, 2018





  •  

Joan

So it's been two years and four months since I made my first post in this topic. That means 2yrs and 8mths on HRT.

I am still presenting male 99% of the time. I have a full-time job at the same time as being a full-time student so barely have time to go out anyway. I'm comfortable being female in my mind as I pass the days and I've given up hiding behind stereotypical male behaviour. I guess in that sense I've reached a workable equilibrium.

One thing I've noticed as the hormones have taken effect is that I've been losing male privilege. Not being one of the boys, and spending more time with women has certainly made my position at work less strong.

Anyway, for what it's worth, this is how I score now.
.

Self-acceptance 90%
I still have the wt* am I doing moments, but I know who I am and am comfortable enough to behave accordingly. Still feel some residual shame at the idea of gettin clocked when I do venture out.

Coming out 5%
I have an understanding SO, I'm out to a few friends and two of my siblings. In other words, not much movement since March 2014.

Hair removal 80%
12 sessions of laser removed a lot of my beard, but there are still a few of the pesky things there. A close shave and some concealer can cover it.

Voice training 90%
I didn't really train it, but I have a voice that works as female now. A bit deep, but good enough to convince shop assistants that I'm not a man.

Socialisation as female 20%
There are still lots of experiences I've never had as a woman. I could only get those through RLE.  I'm looking forward to the challenge some day.

Hormone changes 70%
Size 36D bra, a noticeable waist and no hip development. Thighs are bigger and I've lost a LOT of muscle mass from my back and arms. With a bit of padding in the deficient areas I have a pretty decent figure for 47.
My face has really softened, far less angular I think, and fuller in the cheeks. I can look in the mirror and see myself as physically female some of the time.

Hair 20%
3 weeks ago I finally gave up growing out my hair. My hair has receded too much and it's not coming back. I have a good wig which is fairly convincing.

Wardrobe replacement 50%
i have too many mistakes that I will never wear, but I'm slowly developing a sense of style of my own, and clothes for a range of situations. I'm not sure I would have enough to go full time.

Future employment prospects 10%
I dIsn't intend to transition in my current job, but I'm considering that option now. I came out to my boss a couple of weeks ago, and while not exactly positive, it was far from negative. I wouldn't expect to get fired, and it would be a good springboard to jump off somewhere else.

So, that's where I am: lots of progress and no progress.

What I really want to do is go full time.
Only a dark cocoon before I get my gorgeous wings and fly away
Only a phase, these dark cafe days
  •  

Aethersong

Lets see

Self-acceptance 95%  Overall I'm much more in touch with myself and comfortable.  Still working out a few issues and may always be, but I'm happy with myself.


Coming out 100%
Been fully out and open for most of this year.


Hair removal 50%  9 Laser sessions on my face so far, maybe 1-3 to go and some electrolysis to finish up removal of remaining facial hair.  I still have a bunch of problem body hair but am currently content to let hormones do their thing till the 2 year mark, so far I've had a noticeable decrease in body hair after a year on HRT.  I'll likely re-evaluate further body hair removal in another year.  Until then traditional methods of removal work, like epilation and shaving.
.

Voice training 0% & OK with that
  It bugs me but honestly I don't really care, my voice isn't to bad overall and I've a limited range anyway.  I'm more interested in doing what feels comfortable for me than trying to force myself with voice training, it's just not for me.


Socialization as female 50%
It's slow but it feels more and more natural as time goes on.


Hormone changes 85%
  Shot in the dark here, if I had no more changes I'd still be happy but here's to hoping for some more down the road in my second year.


Hair 80%
  I was stubborn, I refused to get a wig or extensions after coming out.  I took the long and slow route to my current long hair (finally down to the top of my shoulders after 18 months).  I'm pretty happy with the style I've got now but there's always some room to experiment or grow it out a bit longer.


Wardrobe replacement 65%
  I've ditched most of my old clothes, now it's just the slow process of trial and error to find my own style.


Future employment prospects 99%
  I transitioned on the job through a temporary staffing agency earlier in the year.  Since then I've found full time employment presenting as myself and am quite happy where I am for now.  I'm still minimally concerned about future prospects but overall optimistic.

  •  

galaxy

Quote from: galaxy on April 16, 2016, 09:14:06 AM
Self-acceptance 0%
After 3 failed surgeries and failed HRT. No.
Self-esteem 30%
Coming out 100%
Hair removal 40%
No progress.
Voice training 50%
Socialisation as female 70%
Hormone changes 10%
Still no major changes since over 3 years.
Hair 0%
Growth stopped at 25cm (around 10inch)
Wardrobe replacement 100%
Future employment prospects 90%

Average: 49%
Failed.


Self-acceptance 0%
I hate myself.
Self-esteem 0%
Coming out 100%
Hair removal 40%
No progress.
Voice training 50%
Socialisation as female 70%
Hormone changes -20%
PostOP i got virilization.
Hair -30%
Massive hairloss after SRS
Wardrobe replacement 100%
Future employment prospects 40%
Ive still lot of problems caused by SRS.

No comment.

  •  

Jean24

Self-acceptance 0%
I can't wait until there is a cure.

Self-esteem 0%
Nobody likes me so my self esteem is low. It's a perpetuating cycle at this point.

Coming out 100% or 0%

Not sure which it is but I'm not going to be telling people.

Hair removal 80%

This has actually progressed nicely. I just need a few sessions of electro for the stragglers.

Voice training 0%

I want surgery instead. Just relying on the ability to to change my voice isn't enough when it's still the same voice.

Socialisation as female 0%

IMHO you can never really experience this unless those socializing with you are unaware. People treat transgender people as the wrong sex intentionally or do it accidentally by constantly reminding you how brave you are or overcompensating with rainbow unicorn tea parties.

Hormone changes 15%

Cone shaped boobs with nothing else. My shoulder to hip ratio is still outta wack. Fun.

Hair 95%

Luckily I've never had thinning. My hair is about shoulder blade length. I have been filling in my M with Rogaine and yes, it does work contrary to what the manufacturer may say.

Wardrobe replacement 5%

I have 2-3 active wear outfits.

Future employment prospects 0%

Near future anyway. I'm the most unhirable person in history so I've given up.
Trying to take it one day at a time :)
  •  

spx_1112

  •  

swatch

Self-acceptance 20%
This scares the hell out of me. I've always had a very hard time with my whole person. I hate everything I am physically, and I don't love myself as a human being. And transitioning does not do miracles.

Self-esteem 10%
My self-esteem is built only on what I do best.
For everything else, I know I am garbage.

Coming out 70%
Most people that matter know.

Hair removal 30%
__.

Voice training 50%
I can but I don't. I am not fulltime anymore for now.

Socialization as female 5%
I was fulltime for 3 months then went back because I felt it did not work out for me.

Hormone changes 100%
Cannot expect more.

Hair 0%
I'm doomed in this department. At least I cannot think otherwise.

Wardrobe replacement 10%
__.

Future employment prospects --- ?
This is ok, I guess.
  •  

Rhonda Lynn

This may seem funny since I'm 25 years post-op, but working in a very demanding career and having kids around I left a couple of things unaddressed in my life. I left a couple of small things unaddressed because I got on well enough. Now in my life I have a little more time and I've decided to do something about it.

Self-acceptance 100%
I know who I am and love the person that I am. I have some physical things that I've decided to address, but I don't think that this means that I don't accept myself.

Coming out 100%
Came out 26 years ago.

Hair removal 90%
After being "done" for about 24 years with electrolysis, I'm going back to finish off some hair that was left over with some laser.

Voice training 90%
People that have heard my voice in videos say it's quite good. I still like to work on it and improve it.

Socialisation as female 90%
I do get invited to parties and I do attend them. I'm still a bit introverted. I have female friends.

Hormone changes 100%
26 years....

Hair 80%
I'm going to get hair transplants next month to cover the receded areas over my temples along with FFS.

Wardrobe replacement 100%
Haven't worn men's clothes in 26 years.... Wouldn't touch 'em.

Future employment prospects 100%
Doing fine.

Other 50%
Getting FFS in 25 days! Not even sure how to give this a percentage.
  •