Anniversary

[RosieD]

So yesterday I was a tad down in the doldrums and wasn't sure what was causing it. It isn't normal for me to be morose, not through any great fortitude of character, I just tend towards bouncy Tigger than glum Eyeore so I needed to work out what was causing the upset as once I know that I can generally find a way out of the blues. It was only after I went rummaging through my email archive on a completely unrelated thing and found the official notice to my co-workers at the time that the penny dropped. A year ago yesterday I went full time and hasn't it flown by.

Does anyone else get a glum around anniversaries of transition milestones? How do you get past them?

Rosie

[Ms Grace]

I'll let you know in one year's time! But seriously I wouldn't have thought the one year anniversary of coming out at work would be a glum time, unless it didn't go well...?

[RosieD]

Oh there were no problems with work. I planned the whole thing with HR and local management a few months in advan. Wrote a letter that was dedelivered to everyone on my then project on a Friday I worked from home. I came in on the Monday and that was that. The glumness was caused by the need to acknowledge that he had died the same day. Once I had done that, wished him well (with an only half-humorous good riddance) I was back to my usual irritating self.

Rosie

[Ms Grace]

I hadn't thought of that angle, but fair enough. Unlike some people going through this process I haven't really had much of a him/her inner battle...although I did feel a bit sad about my male self the other day. I don't hate the male aspect of myself and in male mode I do consider myself a good guy (wow, really I'm actually crying right now!) - and I don't really see the day I go full time as "he dies" and "she is born" but I might have a really different perspective on that in a years time. Thanks for the interesting insight!

[stephaniec]

It's kind of different for me too. My maleness died along time ago so it's really not a part of my transitioning, but I understand what you mean.

[stephaniec]

On thinking some more I do mourn at times but it's not a fixed point in time

[stephaniec]

on thinking some more I guess there was a fixed time when my male self died in public, but it's more of a constant thing then an anniversary , but it happened when I was in high school and people became aware of this part of me. It was like a public death of being male.

[mrs izzy]

Yes, every New Years day.

For me it was a very dark day in my transition that first day of the year 2005. It does get better for me as the years pass.

Its true, rock bottom is truly a day that things turn around.

Isabell

[RosieD]

I'll let you know in one year's time!

Being a little slow on the uptake, as I generally am, I have only just noticed that you have moved your FT target date forward to Monday week. Congratulations!  And if you don't mind too much I shall be vicariously excited and be crossing everything (twice) that it all goes ship shape and Bristol fashion. Keep us informed or I shall have to fly over the pond to scold you ;-).

Rosie

[Ms Grace]

Thanks I'm writing a daily countdown commentary here... not sure how I'll cover events after that but will certainly be writing about it!

[nikkit72]

Hey ! Happy anniversary. A bit late, but I have been a bit pre-occupied with stuff. Yes, I too get glum around anniversaries, but I have discovered the solution. I celebrate by getting smashed on every other day of the year that is not an anniversary.   

Hope you are all cheered up now though.

Nikki