Asheriko, I am with Jill on the issue of your wife. My wife reacted very stongly to my coming out, that was more than a year ago and we are still together. This is very difficult for her. I brought her to see may therapist a couple of times, she let it all out. She has her own therapist now, things are not wonderful, but we still go out together... dinner, plays, cinema, concerts, lectures; that sort of thing.
It takes time and patience, and you need to understand the anguish she is going through. I watched my wife go through the the same stages of grief that you would experience if somebody died.
You can't help being what you are. You have to balance the equasion, the gap between your body and your brain has to be addressed somehow. I agonized for years before I even acknowledged that, then years more before I finally accepted it. Even though I am saddened by the fact that my marriage is just a pale shadow of what it once was, I feel much better, having dealt with my dysphoria.
