Do you come across any transphobia?

[Nexus]

Hi there, I'm new here, I am a late teens stealth FTM, have been for about 6 years, few people know, only a few friends and my family and my girlfriend, everyone else just knows me as fully male.

I come across a lot of transphobia, it is pretty upsetting, I think a lot of it comes from ignorance, I've seen people assume it is a sexual thing, that we dress and act the way we do as some sort of sexual pleasure, I've seen just general banter about people wearing clothes not associated with their birth gender, I see use of derogatory words, heshe, ->-bleeped-<-, etc, I've seen people say it is wrong and it just seems the majority of people are against transgenders.

I get scared people might want to hurt me or not be associated with me if they knew I wasn't born a boy, I make friends with people who are generally accepting of LGBT stuff, but sometimes they can make "jokes" about trans things and it's hurtful.

Do you come across it a lot in day to day life? if so, what are your experiences?

I hope that one day we can all be accepted, up until recently, there was a lot of homophobia, now it seems like the majority of people are accepting of them, I just hope we're next to be accepted because it isn't fair for us to live in shame and fear of what people might do to us because of our life choices.

[MugwortPsychonaut]

With the exception of maybe a very fortunate few, we all go through this to some degree. You are not alone.

A couple times I've had sweatpants-wearing, insecure, blue-collar tough guys yell "transformer" at me. Often times people will giggle after passing me on the street. Sometimes people give me funny looks. Once, I was on the subway, and this guy was boarding. He saw me and decided to get in through another door. And of course, there's the blatant mis-gendering.

There's also a post I made about being heckled at a skatepark. You can read it here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,160006.0.html

Be strong. Know that you are not alone in this. We don't know each other, but I am rooting for you so much!

[ErinM]

The only episode that I've encountered was in a hospital back in December. I had been full time for three months and was admitted into hospital. My ID including my health care card and new records created after September all state that I'm female but I still had to out myself because I'm pre-op and was in for a cystocopy (camera in the bladder and kidney); they would notice anyway.

They kept in overnight and there was afternoon/evening nurse that consistently misgenderd me, and would think it was a joke when I or my mother corrected him. When I confronted him he said that this kind of thing was new to him. In contrast, the rest of the hospital staff had been great.

I ended up reporting him and requesting that he be provided transgender sensitivity training so that this wouldn't be so "new" to him.

[Natkat]

Yeah I get that alot unfurtunatly.
the hard thing about being stealth/passing is when people don't belive you are
this sort of group then they belive they can talk sh*t about it with you or in general and
nobody will care.

its not only a trans thing I also experience it with rasism or sexism and suchs.
the only right thing to do is to call someone out on it saying transphobia is not cool, but I know it talk courage and in certain situations it not really safe either. so you should try value the situation. if the hate is very
specifik in a certain area like your school, maybe you should try to see if it posible to get something done on the school like sending glbt activist out to educate about this topics.

[Natkat]

If I would come with some example of what I experience it general simple sentence.

like when people in the class laugh because theres a youtube video of a guy saying eating chilly is like being
raped by a ladyboy. or if people laugh of some drawing who neither look like a boy or a girl calling it a freak or hamaphodite.
or people who sign op for a page and wonder what the "other" beside male or female´means and then ask if that means animal?
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its very simple sentence where people make fun or make a statement or ignorant comment. somethimes transphobia is also when they refuse speaking to you or not speaking about this certain topic, or say that this is
not an important issue at all and give you a bad eye.

I don't experience much transphobia who is dirrectly meant to be offensive, it basically just people who are
ignorant of a topic and make the wrong kind of statements. somethimes it been good intentions but comes out wrong, or bad statements who sound like good intentions but is not.

[Supportive Dad]

Up until a few years ago I can honestly say I had Transphobia........ As the parent of a elementary school transgender child I tried to force her not to live that way because I thought it was wrong. I did everything in my power to try to make her think what she was doing was not acceptable.

This type of thinking almost cost me my daughters love....... It took lots self reflection and looking into my daughters eyes seeing how unhappy she was to change my idiotic views.

I just hope you have people that in your corner like I am now to my daughter to support you whether it is a parent or friend. I can honestly say, my daughter has never been happier than she is right now being able to be who she wants to be.

We will never be able to change everyones views, but as long as my daughter is happy being herself, I'm ok with that and hope you are to.