What made you unhappy today? 5.0

[MadeleineG]

That sounds really rough. Is she getting any counselling to help her come to terms with your transition?

She is, but I'm not convinced that the counselor has a clue.

[Natalia]

Having a periodontic surgery to increase the height of my teeth and align them.

My mouth is completely numb...I can't even drink a soup! My dentist told me that when the anesthesia goes away it will be worse and that it will take at least two weeks until my gum heals. It is horrible right now! Looks like I have an open wound on my mouth!

[Lauren5]

Having a periodontic surgery to increase the height of my teeth and align them.

My mouth is completely numb...I can't even drink a soup! My dentist told me that when the anesthesia goes away it will be worse and that it will take at least two weeks until my gum heals. It is horrible right now! Looks like I have an open wound on my mouth!

Owie
So how are you eating? Just wondering?

[Ms Grace]

She is, but I'm not convinced that the counselor has a clue.

They wouldn't be the first clueless counsellor. That's unfortunate, especially if they're making the situation worse. Of course, even the best counsellor isn't going to make a difference if the client has chosen to be uncooperative. Hope things do improve with your wife.

[Natalia]

Owie
So how are you eating? Just wondering?

I'm not, but I will as soon as the anesthesia ends...I am already starving :p

[Lauren5]

I'm not, but I will as soon as the anesthesia ends...I am already starving :p

Dunno about you, but I think the hunger pains would be worse than the surgical pain!
For me, that was the second worst part of getting my wisdom teeth removed. Couldn't eat much besides applesauce and ice cream for a good week or so. The worst part was the pain medication they gave me. Took half a pill and puked for a good 8 hours. Advil sufficed just fine.
Of course, I've never had your procedure done, so I don't know how the pain is for that.

[GnomeKid]

So much homework!!!

[K Style Addiction]

My life and who i am.

[sad panda]

My life and who i am.

Yeah, me too :c

[MadeleineG]

They wouldn't be the first clueless counsellor. That's unfortunate, especially if they're making the situation worse. Of course, even the best counsellor isn't going to make a difference if the client has chosen to be uncooperative. Hope things do improve with your wife.

Thanks. I appreciate the support.

From what my wife tells me, her counselor is using reconciliation after an extramarital affair as her model. Facilitated by this, my wife has concluded that I've lost the expectation of privacy. I think that's neither a reasonable comparison, nor conclusion.

[MadeleineG]

Late April blizzard 

[Adam (birkin)]

I've been in a holding pattern for months now and I'm becoming quite depressed. From September to December, things with my SO seemed to be improving. She moved, rather rapidly, from "I'm not sticking around for any kind of transition" to acceptance and support.

Since Christmas, though, things have taken a sharp turn. Support has been systematically replaced by an endless series of efforts to undermine, restrict, and obstruct transition-related activities: insisting that I reduce my dose, refusing to let me dress or wear my wig, belittling and insulting me, categorically refusing to take photographs.

Here's a representative paraphrase: You asked me to take photographs to document your changes. I don't understand why you can't just wear a plain white T-shirt and jeans.

Things really hit home this week when my SO reported that my son no longer "views transgender as a threat because he thinks nothing is likely to actually change."

I need to assert myself and soon. I need to be direct and, quite frankly, the bough may finally break.

Thanks. I appreciate the support.

From what my wife tells me, her counselor is using reconciliation after an extramarital affair as her model. Facilitated by this, my wife has concluded that I've lost the expectation of privacy. I think that's neither a reasonable comparison, nor conclusion.

I honestly have no idea how they reached the conclusion that changing the privacy you get is going to help either party with the transition. I mean, I can make an assumption as to WHY they chose it - your wife probably views your transition as a) a breach of the marriage contract (to be her husband, and whatever she imagines the role of husband should entail) and/or or b) a potential threat (as a lot of straight women assume that once a spouse transitions they're going to meet, and sleep with, other trans people. I think this is, in part, connected to the false idea that ->-bleeped-<- has a fetishistic element). Her report that your son doesn't view transition as a threat because "nothing is likely to change" is also revealing, in that it shows his biggest fear with your transition may be that you are no longer going to be the person he knew and loved.

I do agree that you'll probably have to assert yourself. How is the communication on the whole issue? It sounds to me, from what you said, that your wife is selective in what she tells you from counselling, and that your son is talking to your wife instead of to you.

[ReaverMarcus]

My dad is finally home but the water still isn't running. Screwed up part of the pump.

[AnneB]

*possible trigger warning*

Walking thru the airport terminals the last 4days, seeing hundreds of females, wanting to be any one of them,
Getting "thank you for the safe flight , sir" repeatedly, (I know, they wouldn't know, it still hurts)
After getting home and unpacking from the trip, stepping on the scale and seeing my weight almost 6lbs more than when I left.

I can barely keep from crying.

[Nero]

After getting home and unpacking from the trip, stepping on the scale and seeing my weight almost 6lbs more than when I left.

I can barely keep from crying.

Sorry hon. but with that statement - you can rest assured you're as female as any one of them!

[megants]

I know I should be happy, but I'm not.  Guess I've always been a glass half empty sort of person.

I know that I don't like traveling on my own, think I might cut short this trip and go home early.

[King Malachite]

ear phones starting to conk out-more expensee.....ugh!

3 of my key buttons aren't working

[Hex]

Went to the salon to get my hair cut, lady asked my name and I impulsively said my birth name and attempted to quickly change it to my new name but it was too late and she just looked at me super weird. From then on I got misgendered as a female and was too sheepish and shy to say anything.

[Lauren5]

*possible trigger warning*

Walking thru the airport terminals the last 4days, seeing hundreds of females, wanting to be any one of them,
Getting "thank you for the safe flight , sir" repeatedly, (I know, they wouldn't know, it still hurts)
After getting home and unpacking from the trip, stepping on the scale and seeing my weight almost 6lbs more than when I left.

I can barely keep from crying.

OhEmGee, are you a pilot? Or another crew member? We have soooo much to talk about!

[AnneB]

Yes, but not a very happy one tonight.  'was an exceptionally difficult trip . The only good that came from it, I was able to really study, observe the females walking thru the concourses..  their walk, their poise, posture, hair flip
But it hurt too, knowing I am so far away from getting to where they are, it would be easier landing an airplane with an engine out, missing half a wing, and the other half on fire, than looking -anything- like them.