Quote from: Tessa James on March 28, 2014, 05:28:51 PM
Natalia thank you for giving us a lesson in understanding other languages and cultures. I can also understand that many respondents here are thinking about how many of us still misgender ourselves in our conversations and even in our dreams. It is troubling enough that some will question being transgender at all. It helps me be a bit more gentle and understanding of the innocent mistakes people make. It also illuminates the idea that gender is not static or well determined for many of us but something fluid and changeable regardless of linguistics.
After dealing with being considered a boy and man for over six decades It is a big change and sometimes a challenge to gender myself and my TG/TS friends in the way we prefer. Language does change and perhaps a hundred years from now people will have better and more inclusive terms of engagement?
Oh, I didn't mean to sound harsh or anything
When I am dreaming I often can't see if I am a boy or a girl...just a few times...and only one if I can remember I was a woman...but this doesn't make me question anything (and shouldn't make anyone question being trans) because we were forged and molded for years to see ourselves as members of the opposite gender. We couldn't refer to ourselves as girls when we were boys...just inside we were girls...and even inside this is a difficut thing to change now...
But my intention was listening from non-English speakers what they think about this language barrier. It makes things far worse for people who speaks languages with patterns like mine...and I am sure there are people all over the world here, not only English speakers...
Let's say, you English speakers are very lucky, you know?
