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Started by Endless_Process, March 27, 2014, 08:47:50 PM

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Endless_Process

Hey guys, so this has been bothering me for a while. I decided to be home schooled for my senior year because I knew I couldn't handle transitioning in school. In addition to that, I'm in the process of looking for a job. For the most part I have a few friends (most were lost during my depression or when I came out). However I feel like now that I don't meet any new people anymore, I bother my couple friends too much. Like today I was really exicted because I might of found a job and have been making progress with my workout and school work, and wanted to tell someone but I had already spoke with my main 2 friends already and couldn't go back and bother them now. Anyways I'm really feel like I'm making strides yet I still feel like I'm not as social as I want to be and need more friends...I guess this is more of a rant than a question. You guys have any tips to meet people for someone who's pre T?
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Elsa

This would depend on the place where you live, but you could try local LGBT support groups and rallies if you're interested. They should be good places to start and at the same time meet supportive people from the LGBT community.

However, this would of course depend on how open the place where you live if they are open minded enough to allow LGBT groups and meets to get together without being harassed.
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Endless_Process

My town has a small LGBT group, which I've sort of checked out, but there are only gay people there. But in the larger cities near by-all about 2 hours away- have a lot of trans folk I've seen online and plenty of groups and stuff.
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GnomeKid

Hmm I don't think you should think of interacting with your friends as bothering them.  Maybe to be on their asses 24/7 would be annoying, but I think keeping it to a once a day talking minimum is kind of absurd.  I used to talk to my friends almost 24/7 in high school.  We'd walk to the bus together, talk before school, text each other during classes - often even if we were in the same class, see each other to hang out/do extra curriculars after school, and then get on AIM to talk all night or in the case of my neighbor and I sneak out to hang out and walk around corn fields at night.  Not saying I had 100 friends.  I really only had a few, but we certainly were not bothered by repeat/unending interaction. 

If something exciting in life happens text your friends! 

As for meeting someone pre-T... can't really help there (what a specific request... do you not want to be friends with them after they start taking T? =p just messin with you) 

A job will help with friends also....
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Endless_Process

You know I almost forgot about relationships like that. Always talking and hanging out with each other. To be honest that's how I used to be for the longest time. I guess it just feels weird to start doing that again. I had a best friend who I was like that with, and an old group of people I used to chill with. I guess, it's just I'm still a little insecure. Not sure if we're close enough to be like that.

Oh and the pre T thing, just put that because I feel a little uncomfortable meeting new people right now, because I don't know what to say to them since I don't pass all the time and my parents dont use my preferred name/pronouns.
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Jason C

I relate to this so much. I've been sick for six years, so I had to drop out of college and haven't gone back, nor can I work. So of course all of my friends except two stopped bothering with me. The two that I have are busy so I never see them. I've made one friend who's my best friend and we hung out while he was here, but he lives in Sri Lanka, so...can't hang out anymore. So I completely get what you're saying. I hardly leave the house, so making friends is impossible. But for you, I'd say, if you have the money, perhaps when you've found a job or if you can find a free one, maybe you can do a course? Nothing heavy on learning, just something you're interested in learning, like photography or painting or yoga or something like that. They do loads of stuff like that where I live. Good way to make friends is to find someone with a common interest or two, right?

Besides that, meeting someone specifically who's trans, I'm not sure besides support groups. Maybe asking around online?
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YBtheOutlaw

did somebody say sri lanka? oooh yeaaah! i don't know if any of you can relate to what i'm feeling right now, being excited at seeing your country mentioned in a random post. it happens when your country is small enough :)
anyway what i was going to tell is, personally i'm not so good at making friends out of the blue either. unless the other party is ultrafriendly or we spend too much time together that we cant help but become friends eventually, i don't make new friends. but, there's this single way i expand my friend volume, that's friends of friends. you have two friends right, hang out with them with their other friends. at parties, charity events, whatever. get to know friends of your friends while you're hanging out with your friends and make them your friends. good luck dude! and yes, if you think you need to share something the susan's place is all ears!
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