I feel like im not allowed to date anyone bc im trans

[TrojanMan]

So, I go to a school as stealth, but most of the teachers know im trans. They never express their opinions to me but I can tell some of them dont agree with it. Lately theres been a few girls who wanted to date me, but I feel obligated to reject them because I feel that some of the teachers would be "disgusted" or unapproving of my actions. There is this girl that I really like that has a crush on me and would like to date, but im scared the teachers would think its weird or think bad of me or think im a pervert cuz im trans. Does anyone have any advice about this? Thankyou

[Jessica Merriman]

Here is my advice, it is your life not theirs. If you want to date go right ahead and live life to the fullest. Why concern yourself with the opinions of people who do not live your life or have any impact on it? Public perception seems to be the biggest issue a lot here face and when it comes down to it why? They all have their issue's and do what they want without checking for your views first, right? So what if they don't approve. You have a right as a human being to live, love and laugh however you want to. 

[invisiblemonsters]

there's gonna be people who don't approve or get you being trans. you can't let these people or what they think or whatever else stop you from being happy or being yourself or dating. we all deserve love, no matter if we are trans or not or if people approve of us being trans or not. you aren't dating them so it shouldn't matter to them what you do or who you do it with. you aren't harming anyone and it's really none of their business.

how you even approach dating (when to tell someone, etc.) is none of their business, only yours. be happy and have fun and date!! we spend so long being unhappy and uncomfortable with who we are that we can't continue to let people get in the way of our happiness anymore, especially in parts of our life that doesn't concern them.

don't worry about them or anyone else because truthfully, there will be people who won't approve but if you keep not doing things because of what others think, you won't be able to be happy yourself and at the end of the day, you're the one living with your decisions and would you really want them to be ones you regret? things you wish you did but didn't because of others?

[wheat thins are delicious]

So, I go to a school as stealth, but most of the teachers know im trans. They never express their opinions to me but I can tell some of them dont agree with it. Lately theres been a few girls who wanted to date me, but I feel obligated to reject them because I feel that some of the teachers would be "disgusted" or unapproving of my actions. There is this girl that I really like that has a crush on me and would like to date, but im scared the teachers would think its weird or think bad of me or think im a pervert cuz im trans. Does anyone have any advice about this? Thankyou

Why would they be disgusted?  Do they have objections to a man dating a woman?  What you do is really none of their business and they have no right to express an opinion on it.  If they do, you should take action against them.

[Adam (birkin)]

Any teacher worth their pay knows well enough that they need to distance themselves from their students affairs, even emotionally. If they have a problem with your actions and want to judge you, that honestly is a reflection on their poor professionalism and not on you.

[anibioman]

I worried that any girl I would date would get bullied because I'm trans. I wasn't stealth because I came out in my sophomore year of high school. So I put off getting with hot chicks for that reason. When I did date girls no one cared, If anything they were happy for us. For all I know people questioned it behind our backs, but it probably would have gotten back to me by now. The only objection to me getting with girls was "why do you like her she's not that hot" it was always from the girl who had a not so secret crush on me. I've never had an adult question my relationship, or comment negatively.

[GnomeKid]

f-ck what you're teachers think.  Teachers are not that kind of important.

I feel like I'm not allowed to date anyone because my own emotional baggage.  Like I could never burden another person with trying to understand for me.  That, however, is a whole different story.  (plus I've actually honestly not been attracted to any girl I've met [met repeatedly in a social situation] that I've been into since I moved to grad school... hopefully that changes where ever I move next)

[Natkat]

but im scared the teachers would think its weird or think bad of me or think im a pervert cuz im trans.

personally I would think you teacher was more of a pervert if they made a great deal about who you are dating,
that isn't really there busniss, there busniss is to teach you whatever theyre suposed to teach.

[AdamMLP]

Just echoing what other people have said really, there's no reason for your teachers to care, or for you to worry about what they might think.  For all you know they might not actually have a problem with you being trans, you could just be looking for people to have a problem with it because you don't expect things to go completely smoothly.  That probably didn't come out right, but I sort of have a paranoia that people will have a problem with me when they really don't.

It's a different environment here at work as we're all adults and a lot closer to our instructors than you normally are at school, but even here the instructors don't really care about what people do.  They think that some people are odd, but not in an overly nasty way, and they're all completely professional at work.  The only ones that they really think are strange are the ones that are nasty people anyway, they don't care about anyone's partners or anything.  When I was at school I never knew what any of the teachers thought, but the few that I did know a couple of their views on things never really cared about anything that went on between their pupils.

[Xenguy]

I have a friend, we're been best friends for two years and she has known about my transition for about 6 months now. She's been with me every step of the way. However, her teachers ((Whom I know and used to trust)) Found out about my transition and told her I was some kind of pervert, that she should watch out for me and stop talking to me because according to them, transitioning meant I was in love with everyone I laid my eyes on..... Thankfully she didn't, but trust me, you aren't alone.

[Nikotinic]

Having been a teacher in the past, I can say from experience that they won't care (or probably even notice) who you are dating unless you make an issue of it in class. Just keep the cuddling out of class time and you'll be fine.