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Started by TRyan, March 31, 2014, 06:52:22 PM

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TRyan

I'm not sure which section to post this in so if this isn't the right one feel free to let me know or to move it.

I've been on T for 6 weeks now. I think I'm on too low a dose. I'm starting at half of what the usual starting dose is (per my doctor) for the first 3 months.

I've been waiting for this for years and years. I've been having some depression and some mixed feelings about transitioning. On the one hand I want everything that goes along with being on T (like everything). 

But I'm also realizing all the losses that will occur. I've already lost a couple friends. I"m pretty isolated and have had a lot of losses these past 2 years.

Has anyone else gone through this?  Is it normal?

I'm in therapy and my therapist said it's normal but I haven't seen any other trans guys talk about this. I know I have a lot of internalized shame about gender. We moved a lot when I was a kid and everyone would think I was a boy so I was constantly coming out as a "girl!" and then people would recoil and I'd feel so much shame about having to admit I was a girl.  I hated puberty and what it did to my body. I curved my shoulders inward and would only wear sweatshirts (even in hot weather) to hide my breasts (hated them).

I don't understand all these mixed feelings though. I'm thinking it might have to do with shame.

I'll be glad to have my T levels tested. I felt really great my last injection but the one yesterday hasn't given me the boost like before. 
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CursedFireDean

I think losing people is something that almost every transperson experiences. For most of us, we're well aware of, or soon come to the realisation of, the possibility of losing people but decide that transitioning is worth losing some friends. For me, I would rather come out, be myself, and know who my true friends are, than suffer inside just to be sort-of friends with more people. We all go through the realization of how much loss we may experience, and it's totally normal to be uncomfortable with that. Most guys probably tend to focus on the parts of transitioning that are happy rather than sad, so it isn't talked about as much. It's definitely good that you're still talking to a therapist about it, as I'd suggest that if you weren't.





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TRyan

Thanks CurseFireDean-that makes perfect sense.  I think the isolation is a bit challenging for me at the moment. I'm definitely aware of the good things as well and am so grateful to finally be transitioning. I didn't expect certain emotional challenges but I'm also thinking my hormones are still a bit whacky. 
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onebody

Its normal like me I'm used to my body for 23 years. Honestly I'm not totally hyper about becoming a "man". On the other hand, I feel like theres a part of me thats been let go, but I have to make this step to move forward. Yeah, its shame, discomfort, hiding myself, and might feel artificial to some ppl. I dont mind to be isolated though as I've lost faith in ppl. Remember ppl can judge you but they dont live your life, you only have one life to live. Be happy
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TRyan

Totally true onebody. I've lost faith in people also. I'm already judged for my appearance anyway. It is my life and I have to live it for myself. I think the weight I put on so fast as well as fears about upcoming hurdles (plus I don't think I'm on the right dose of T yet) are all contributing to all of this.   
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onebody

yah, Its like going through puberty all over again . The acne, the weight, feels like my hs sophomore year ::) I can start over, I dont have that many friends anyway. I think life has its hurdles no matter if your transperson or not. What needs to come will come. Dont worry too much
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