question for you bro's. How did your first family gathering go?

[AquaWhatever]

Hey guys. First off I'll introduce myself again..
I'm Dylan.
For about two and a half years I've been going by this name.
And my parents and brothers call me by this name..

(My family)
Uncles,Cousins, aunts and grandma. Still call me by my birth name. (Which is ok, because they're not use to my male name I guess :/)
They're not 100% accepting of me they're more like 30-40% accepting.. but every now and then they'll call me by male pronouns.
But this is rare..

Point being...
Tomorrow is my grandmothers birthday. And it will be the first family party I been too since coming out.
My question for you guys is what was your first family gathering like?
So I can know what I may get/What to expect.

[Adam (birkin)]

Erm, my family mostly just ignored the fact that I was transitioning. Lol. They used my old name and "she" as if nothing ever happened. It took a few years for them to stop.

[randomroads]

Mine was just like that. Since they refuse to respect me and my choices, I refuse to talk to them. I hold grudges.

[Carbonated]

On my moms side they all tried to use my right name and pronoun, if they got it wrong they ussually corrected themselves, and they wrote the right name on my christmas presents.

When meeting my dads family they pretty much ignored it, my cousin even made an innapropriate comment on "disgusting ->-bleeped-<-s". I did't have the guts to tell him that was a stupid thing to say, regret it now. That evening was awkward lol.

[Tossu-sama]

Aside from having a huge hour-long mental breakdown? Not bad I guess.

It was my mom and stepdad's wedding couple years ago. They're supportive and all, don't get me wrong but... Well, I guess that's exactly the reason why I reacted to strongly.
You know how the tables have name cards in the reception? Well, because they'd been so supportive all along I expected my (back then) new name would've been on the card but it wasn't. There it was, the old name, staring right back at me.
So yeah, in came a huge anxiety attack riddled with all sorts of mixed emotions and it surely wasn't made any better by other people coming to wonder what's wrong with me. More like what was NOT wrong with me at that point.

Anywho, that whole incident was discussed through with the help of a social worker and nurse specialising in trans* stuff and we're all cool with my mom now.

[Emerson]

It was stressful but I had at Least three family members pull me aside and offer support.

I was surprised in the best way and it made the awkward comments and aggressive looks worth it.

[Kyler]

It took me like 3 years to see work up the guts to see anyone. I was scared that no one was gunna acknowledge it and that others wouldn't know. However, even my 95 yr old great grandma called me by my name and male pronouns! Luckily my family is pretty dang awesome. I haven't really spoke with any extended family about it but maybe my mom has? But my mom doesn't really speak to most of them very often either.

[AquaWhatever]

Thanks guys..
Well it went alright..
Some of my family ignored it. Some decides to be anal about it.
But I didn't care much.
My grandma called me by male pronouns which was Awesome!
Even the ones who didn't except called me by male pronouns, (Sarcastically)
But hey. They still called me by my right pronouns.
That's all that matter 

[jessman3]

It was a christening reception for one of my second cousins, so everyone was there. Most people actively ignored me. I had some very distant relatives giving me dirty looks. My immediate family all used the wrong pronouns, and made a big show of using the right name. My place card said MISS Jesse. I told my mom how upset that made me and she shrugged. My great aunt took me aside and said she was "praying for me". My grandfather greeted me by shaking my hand instead of hugging me (good thing, this is how he greets males v. Females in the family) and my grandmother told me I looked handsome. So overall the most accepting people there were my 70+ year old grandparents. Go figure. It was awkward and awful and I left early.

[MarcBanks]

It was a christening reception for one of my second cousins, so everyone was there. Most people actively ignored me. I had some very distant relatives giving me dirty looks. My immediate family all used the wrong pronouns, and made a big show of using the right name. My place card said MISS Jesse. I told my mom how upset that made me and she shrugged. My great aunt took me aside and said she was "praying for me". My grandfather greeted me by shaking my hand instead of hugging me (good thing, this is how he greets males v. Females in the family) and my grandmother told me I looked handsome. So overall the most accepting people there were my 70+ year old grandparents. Go figure. It was awkward and awful and I left early.

Jess, I think it's great how your grandfather shook your hand & that your grandmother complimented you that way.They are the oldest people in your family thus making them the wisest of the family and the most respected i suppose. Maybe you should try to ask them to speak to the other members of your family. That way your grandparents can be there for you to set a good example on how you should be treated.