I may be in the process of coming out to my best friend via text....

[Greeneyedrebel]

I mentioned having set up an appointment with a new therapist for next week to my best friend....who usually knows me better than I know myself. We are seriously close. I told her about the stuff that has kicked off this wave of disphoria the past few weeks, and she has ways of making me talk that only our BFF's seem to have. Never pushy, respects when I say "I don't wanna talk about it..." but the thing is.....dammit I DO wanna talk about it!!!!!

So she's asking me all these open ended questions and seems to have the ability to tell via a text message if I am not giving the "truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth" so this could get very interesting....fast.

I WANT to talk to her about all of this......and I KNOW if I told her I wanted to go shopping for ties or suits etc she would be on her way to pick me up pronto. Cuz she's just awesome like that....and she has fashion sense...unlike me. But I'm not sure how a trans* discussion would go........

[Jessica Merriman]

But I'm not sure how a trans* discussion would go........

There is only one way to find out!

[Greeneyedrebel]

There is only one way to find out!

I'm being a bit vague on purpose with her. She's not afraid to ask blunt questions (one of the awesome things about her), so we'll see.....

Terrified in a way......

[radsi]

my best friend has this power over me too re knowing me better than i know myself and me over her....

just type it.. hit send.... and probably temporarily freak while she replies but be brave! 

x

[Brandon]

Just tell her my friend accepted me and I kinda like her and she knows but she sees me as a guy and didn't judge me and shes known I was trans and didn't care at all, but its common to be afraid.

[Greeneyedrebel]

Yes, I'm being a chicken. She's at her kid's game that just started so I'm being the considerate friend and waiting for a response to the last text (an answer to a specific question she asked me). In case it's a screwy reaction if I'm blunt, I'm not gonna mess up the kid's game. Those kids are family to me too.

I hate waiting sometimes.

[Bombadil]

So what's the update?

[Greeneyedrebel]

Still at her kid's game.

[Greeneyedrebel]

A million thanks for the support and encouragement last night. After her kids game, by best friend and I got to talk again and discussed a lot of stuff, although I didn't get specific and phrased it as feelings....not decisions or labels. But it was great to talk (live....she called once she got home) about the things I've been feeling lately.

I should mention she's is a Social Worker who also has a degree in sociology and a fairly gender-bending (when he feels like it) brother who in her mind hung the moon.

I had a dream last night that I was a guy named Reese and as a surprise she had decided to give me a style makeover...which consisted of hitting every cool menswear store/department in a 50 mile radius. I told her about that dream this morning, and the reaction? "Reese huh? I like it, suits your personality. Oh, is that Brooks Brother's store in New Orleans within 50 miles? Cuz they have some amazing stuff and if I'm footing the bill for a style makeover in your dreams I hope I at least did it up right. Does this mean you'll let me take you shopping for real? Do you know how to tie a tie? Or a bowtie?"

So despite no actual proclamations on my end.....I think she's getting the idea....and now I wonder WTF I was actually worried about......

[ReaverMarcus]

I actually had been in a similar spot recently. Except for me, it was one of my male friends and I had to use FB (since I don't get to see him often) I was kind of surprised how well he took it (even though he asked strange questions after)

As he told me, expect the worst and you'll never be disappointed.

[radsi]

So despite no actual proclamations on my end.....I think she's getting the idea....and now I wonder WTF I was actually worried about......

Congrats dude I bet u feel a lot better! N it will definitely make telling her the whole thing easier.

Sounds like u r gunna have some fun shopping trips lol oh and are u actually gunna call ureself reese?

Rads xx

[Greeneyedrebel]

Congrats dude I bet u feel a lot better! N it will definitely make telling her the whole thing easier.

Sounds like u r gunna have some fun shopping trips lol oh and are u actually gunna call ureself reese?

Rads xx

I have no idea what to call myself! Yet. I think that name got stuck in my subconscious after watching "Sweet Home Alabama" last night. I like the initials RJ or AJ, but what to have the R, A, or J stand for is still very much up in the air.

Side note.....I have been plotting a complete legal name change for years....and this same friend and I regularly toss around name ideas. I hadn't done it with female or neutral names because I couldn't decide.

[Bombadil]

That's so cool I'm glad it went well.

Now I want to tell my best friend (sort of).