An update...
I really think I picked the right therapist. He's very active in the trans* community, easy to talk to, and I feel comfortable. Well, comfortable as one can be in a first therapy appointment anyway.
Today was a lot of getting to know each other, but we dove into some stuff, and will of course continue next time. He doesn't do T referrals on the the first visit, usually the second or the third unless there are some things that need to be worked on. So I am looking at a likely timeline of getting the referral in 2 weeks......then the bloodwork etc and it's possible (fingers crossed) to be getting the first shot in a month.