Should I stay quiet?

[Dante_Ivan]

So I came out to my mother two months ago and she made me leave the room. Now she acts like nothing has happened, like that conversation didn't exist. I want to talk with her about how I feel and that I want to change because, well, I want to cry everytime I look at the mirror. But I'm scared to talk with her about that, I wanted to start talking about it but she started shouting at me.
Should I stay quiet?

[helen2010]

Dante

Please note  that I am not a qualified therapist but it certainly appears that you do need to talk with someone.  I recommend finding an experienced gender therapist as there are at least 2 relationships in play - that with yourself and that with your mother.   Having a more intimate and detailed conversation with yourself which is facilitated and supported by a counsellor is usually the best way forward.

They will help you understand yourself and your relationship with your mother, they can then help you  articulate your feelings and situation, then role play and visualise a positive interaction and help you evaluate different scenarios.

Without knowing your situation, your history, your mother's history etc even making what would be 99 per cent of the time a highly effective and low risk strategy eg writing her a letter, could be problematic and potentially counter productive.  In the meantime it is clear that you care for her and she is important to you.  She will feel this.  Seek advice and counsel and this will help you best address your situation.

Aisla

[Dante_Ivan]

Dante

Please note  that I am not a qualified therapist but it certainly appears that you do need to talk with someone.  I recommend finding an experienced gender therapist as there are at least 2 relationships in play - that with yourself and that with your mother.   Having a more intimate and detailed conversation with yourself which is facilitated and supported by a counsellor is usually the best way forward.

They will help you understand yourself and your relationship with your mother, they can then help you  articulate your feelings and situation, then role play and visualise a positive interaction and help you evaluate different scenarios.

Without knowing your situation, your history, your mother's history etc even making what would be 99 per cent of the time a highly effective and low risk strategy eg writing her a letter, could be problematic and potentially counter productive.  In the meantime it is clear that you care for her and she is important to you.  She will feel this.  Seek advice end counsel and this will help you best address your situation.

Aisla

Thank you very much for your time and advice, I will try it, but I think I will wait a little because things are starting to be a little tense at my house. (sorry for bad english, it's not my mother toungue)

[suzifrommd]

Your mother shouting at you for being trans is abusive. Understand that.

Do what you need to do to protect yourself. Realize that right now, fear may be clouding her understanding and she may not have your best interests in mind. But you have no obligation to keep your gender identity from your mother.

I agree with the advice to find someone you can trust to talk to.

[peky]

So I came out to my mother two months ago and she made me leave the room. Now she acts like nothing has happened, like that conversation didn't exist. I want to talk with her about how I feel and that I want to change because, well, I want to cry everytime I look at the mirror. But I'm scared to talk with her about that, I wanted to start talking about it but she started shouting at me.
Should I stay quiet?

I am assuming from the tone of you letter that you are under the age of 18 YO, and thus going to high school. If, I am correct, then I advise to speak to one of the school counselors.  What Country are you in?

BTW my mother sent me away for 15 months when I was twelve years old, and by the time I come back, she acted like nothing had happen... so I do understand how you feel

Courage !

Peky

[Bombadil]

It is hard when parents won't understand. It's ok to wait but please know what the way you feel is valid and that you deserve to be listened to. When you are ready, is there some other trusted adult you can talk to?