If this is in the wrong forum feel free to move it.
Also, sorry if this turns into a rant I am feeling a bit alone and vulnerable as I am home alone with a broken hip.
Anyway, I have been out of the closet and on hormones (T) for 3 years. My entire family knows this but many of them still use the wrong pronouns and refer to me by the wrong name etc. My mom and my sisters are really great about it and they have been very supportive of me throughout this whole process. The problems I am having are coming more from my dad, my grandma, and my extended family who despite being corrected numerous times by myself, my sisters, and my mom refuse to change the pronouns and the name.
I am trying to be really patient with them but this morning my grandma said something which upset me and I just needed to get it off my chest. She said "I love you no matter what and you'll always be [birth name] to me."
I know she was trying to cheer me up and be supportive of my broken hip but it gets under my skin so much that after telling her so many times that I no longer go by that name and that it hurts my feelings, she still does it. [Birth name] is a fantasy. [Birth name] is a dream that never came true. [Birth name] was never real to begin with. I just don't know how else I can tell her that. I know this is a hard thing for a lot of people to accept, especially someone who is in their 80's, but I can't help but think that if she really loved me she would actually listen to me and accept me for who I am. Accept me for who I am now, not who she thought I was before I came out.
Should I let it slide? Should I tell her how I feel again and risk yet another fight?
Advice greatly appreciated.
