Feeling discouraged

[Seras]

If the car is legally yours then they cannot take it, and if they try then you can get it back through legal means. Though this would ofc have consequences. If it is not yours then try and get them to sign it over. Go easy on that though, like you can't try and get them to do that while they are all pissed off about this stuff or they might be suspicious. You need to appear as innocent as possible! If it is your car though, legally then you can go wherever you want with it, whereas if it is legally theirs and you do one day drive off they can report it as stolen.

You should probably make sure you finish school. With your parents as they are it sounds like you might have to do this transitioning by yourself without much support. So you need to do as well at school as you can so you can get a job and fund yourself. The better your grades the easier this will all be. Try and keep positive and remember what you are working for.

Sounds like they are religious? Do you all go to church?

[Jessica Merriman]

Kayla, you know I have supported you since you joined here. You know you have an offer of somewhere to go where you can start treatment and attend college. You know you are being denied basic medical care and will never have any support from your family. What you lack girl is commitment and the will to leave all the comforts behind. You know you will be forced to live as a male as long as you stay where you are. You know you will be put constantly in positions where now is not a good time. Why in the name of G-D are you still there is the question.

[stephaniec]

Yes but they know where I go. I couldn't get away with that.

it doesn't matter, go to the hospital  talk to social worker and or a psychiatrist if your parents interfere you can have the police have a quiet talk with them for interfering with your medical care .simple

[kaylagirl0806]

Sounds like they are religious? Do you all go to church?

Yes we do go to church

[kaylagirl0806]

And unfortunately neither one of my cars is legally mine ( I have 2) 

[Jessica Merriman]

Kayla you have gotten really good suggestions and advice. What more can WE do? The ball is in your court dear. If you want life, YOU are going to have to do something about your situation. Most of us here lost everything, but gained so much more. Time to test your resolve, determination and drive.

[stephaniec]

Kayla you have gotten really good suggestions and advice. What more can WE do? The ball is in your court dear. If you want life, YOU are going to have to do something about your situation. Most of us here lost everything, but gained so much more. Time to test your resolve, determination and drive.

ditto, I've said all I can possibly say on this topic. sorry for your situation , but help is there, its up to you and you alone

[Foxglove]

Kayla, it sounds to me like you lack courage and determination.  I'm not going to give you a hard time about that because I'm the same.  But if you want some happiness in your life, you're going to have to go for it.  I think it's pretty obvious what you need to do.  Get that objective in your mind, focus on it, take what time you need to prepare yourself for it.  Then do it.

A friend of mine once told me, "You just have to do it!"  He was right.  You just have to gear yourself up for it and do it.  Otherwise, it's not going to happen.

[Seras]

You should all stop telling her how super easy it is and all she has to do is this or that. It is a really big deal to go against your family in such a big way even if it is for something important like this and however heartless they are being, especially for an 18 year old. It isn't easy, and in fact to do it right now at the very end of high school and risk being thrown into a tumultuous situation when I presume this is her last year at school (being 18) and where she will have her final grades is not exactly the most responsible thing to advise. I mean who knows what her parents are going to do if she goes to get treatment her parents find out and she calls the cops on them?!?! I do not see that ending well. If I were you Kayla right now the number one thing I would do is try and put your focus on school, get good grades, get a job after or go to college and then you can live however you want. Hell if you go to college you can pretty much reinvent yourself if you go to a different state. Same if you manage to get a job outside of Kansas. It is your last year of school right? Everyone is right though Kayla one day you just have to take the plunge and do it if it is what you want to do, but you have to think what is the best long term plan for you and what you want, not your parents. You can't let them hold you back.


I doubt your priest is particularly liberal when it comes to LGBT stuff since it is your parents church?

[Randi]

Kansas City?

See if you can get some help here:

http://transascity.org/

[gabimoneratt]

Be smart.  Enroll in a university that is far from Kansas, far enough that your parents won't be able to see you that often. Work, get your stuff together and prepare to live by yourself, affording your own stuff... Or prepare to be unhappy until you do so :/

[Jessica Merriman]

  Enroll in a university that is far from Kansas, far enough that your parents won't be able to see you that often.

I have even offered free housing if she goes to Oklahoma University or Oklahoma State University. If she is miserable it is her fault alone. Right Kayla?