Do you have any trans pet peeves? Let's start a list.

[Evelyn K]

How can we become better people by not doing certain things?

Some of my pet peeves:

Pucker lipped selfies thinking it will make you look more fem.
Purposely bloomed out way over exposed selfies thinking it will make you look more fem.

[Jessica Merriman]

Over done makeup!

[Evelyn K]

Trans' who defer health questions to the authority of a "therapist" and/or "medical professionals" -- but who are probably self medicating themselves.

C'mon who are you kidding.

[JamesG]

That is the responsible* thing to say.


* = least personal liability.

[JamesG]

Transgender and even cross-dressers who still act like they are being "naughty".

[Evelyn K]

->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s surfing this forum and playing innocent commentator.

[Evelyn K]

More of a general pet peeve

Diehard regulars who won't pitch in a few $$$ to help keep the forum we love running.

[suzifrommd]

Trans people who actively discourage others from political activism and public education by predicting that "Things will never change. People will always hate us no matter what we do."

[LordKAT]

"More trans than you" stuff. It isn't a contest and we are all suffering to one degree or another.

[Kimberley Beauregard]

I know right?  It's like oppression Olympics: it's stupid.

Here's a good article on this: http://persephonemagazine.com/2014/04/being-trans-enough/

[Frank]

This applies to a lot more people than just here, but I see it here a lot more than I would like and it grinds on my one nerve or so. People who ask for help, and then either wait for the one answer that suits them and their view only, or just go out of their way to explain why they can't do that, that and that. It's like another form of attention seeking. All these people are giving you suggestions, find one that works. Figure. It. Out.

[suzifrommd]

People who criticize trans women for wanting to "pass".

Since Janet Mock began getting a lot of media face time,  that's been a recurring theme.

I've even seen trans women take someone to task for using the word "pass". When I've asked what other word should be used instead, the answer comes back, we shouldn't have a word for it at all.

I.e. not only are we not supposed to want to pass, we're not even supposed to talk about it.

[Ltl89]

I hate it when people lack empathy to someone else's situation, including myself in this problem. 

I'm trying to better explain this, but you would think many of us would be more compassionate with other people in life considering what we feel or go through.  Like being trans is a compassion or empathy lesson.  Yet, I think a lot of trans people, not anyone here particular, don't really acquire the ability to empathize all that well which is perhaps the greatest ability a human can have, in my opinion.  I feel we should be better at this than we are as a whole.   

[Ltl89]

How we often hate stereotypes targeted at us, but many are wilfully ready to participate in stereotypes of an outside group that is viewed unfavourably.

[Ltl89]

Our own inability to appreciate uniqueness in our own community.  Many of us will think, feel, act or live differently, yet I think some people have ideas that there is a right or wrong way to behave as a trans person.  That doesn't come up on this forum much, which is why I love it here, but I do see it a lot in the general trans community.  Like there is some kind of rulebook a transwoman and transman must live their life by.  It's just silly.  We are all different people that share one big similarity and maybe a few others. 

[Ltl89]

And I guess the last thing that comes to my head is that we tend to make our transition and our identity a bigger deal than it needs to be.  In my experience, most people that know don't see it as a big deal.  They think "oh, that sort of makes sense" and then they go on with their day.  Yet, many of us, myself included, obbssess on every little aspect of being trans and the hardships that exist that likely aren't so bad in reality.  I guess the way some of us, myself included, make the world into a worse place when it's really not as much of a nightmare as the one we created. 

[~Evelyn~]

"More trans than you" stuff. It isn't a contest and we are all suffering to one degree or another.

EXACTLY! God, You took the words right out of my mouth!

[Evelyn K]

Threads with huge walls of text.

Seriously, what's up with that?

TL;DR

[Randi]

"Gold Star" transsexuals who fully transitioned years ago, and now criticize anyone who doesn't meet their stringent requirements for a "true transsexual".

According to them, if you didn't transition by early adulthood, complete SRS and live a stealthy female life you are some sort of pervert and are ruining the good name of transsexuals who met the early Harry Benjamin criteria.

Randi

[Jayne]

Two pet peeves are the "more trans than thou" attitude, we just don't need it here.

The other peeve is when someone complains about poor service on the NHS & non UK residents try to make us feel guilty for speaking up because they see it as a "free" transition, every working UK resident pays for the NHS through tax & NI so we have every right to complain when the system fail us.