So, this something I think a lot about, duhh, I think we all do. Let me say beforehand, I just want to have friendly discourse, here. Please no name calling, or hurt feelings. I'm sharing opinions and thoughts and looking for feedback, and I'm living this experience...and am pretty deep into it, so please don't think I'm trying to invalidate anybody here.
Please bear with me as I try to sort of...put proper words to this. I guess the way I see it is there are two sides to this..sort of concrete and abstract...sex and gender. Sex is something real and tangible and biologically determined that we can never fully change and gender is something abstract and socially created that we can change, through transition.
Transsexualism is the state of feeling like the opposite sex, likely due to some sort of hormonal exposure in utero, that caused feminization/masculanization of the brain structure. This internal mismatch could be a mild disorder that's easily ignored, were it not aggrivated by gender roles which tell us that each sex is wildly mentally different from the other and that there is something seriously wrong with our body.
At the core, our primal desire is probably to be biologically male/female...which is impossible. However, psychologically, likely starting n early childhoid, this translated into a psychological desire to be a 'man' or a 'woman' right?
I'm not sure if I'm putting this very well. But here is, I think, the key problem. Sex is real, yes. Sexes are different. And gender is a natural, primitive social reaction to these distinctions. But the problem comes in with gender *roles*...these are what cause dysphoria.
Transition, I suppose, in my view, is giving into these roles. By transitioning we validate a restrictive dichotomy so we can find a sense of internal relief...and, no, you really can't hate on anyone for that, because it's us who are most painfully affected by these distinctions. But if that's so, shouldn't *we* be the very ones advocating change, instead, seeing as we're the ones walking the line, here? Because it hurts everyone. It hurts a cismale who is told he's not 'masculine' enough and it hurts a cisfemale who is told she's beneath men because she has a vagina.
If genders weren't so distinguished from one another would transition be necessary? I'm sure thered be discomfort over feeling like we should be the opposite sex, but given the fact we can never have the internal plumbing of a biological female (or dude parts for FtMs), we could find coping mechanisms...and wouldn't that be preferable?
The way I see it, transition shouldn't be necessary, should it? I mean, yeah, it should be something we can do if we want to...but it shouldn't be something we have to feel is so necessary. And it shouldn't be so major.
The irony is that...it's the same system we validate through transition that makes transition both feel so important and be so difficult, both internally and externally.
Thoughts, opinions, etc?
