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i think i accidently clocked someone :(

Started by latoya rayne, May 07, 2014, 07:35:53 PM

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latoya rayne

I feel really bad right now. I was at my endocrinologist s office with my bf today, and as we were leaving we were going in the elevator, and I noticed a woman was coming towards us to get in as well, I saw her for a second and then avoided eye contact and so all I said was what floor are you going on ma'am. And she said the same as me. As were pulling out of the place she was standing on the sidewalk talking on the phone and I waved goodbye to her. And she waved back. Before this happened, my boyfriend and I were waiting in the waiting room, my boygpfriend said something funny and I started laughing like a gritty school girl, there was all these pregnant women, and then there was us the only ones in a room of prego chicks, he said "' great honey, you got me stuck in a room full of pregnant chicks"'  I started dying of laughter it was so funny, then within five mins, the nurse called me into the room to see the doctor, but she addressed me by my birth name, I was so pissed off, I was pretty such outted in a room full of prego chicks and they're boyfriends. I was mortified, first she said my old name, then she said LaToya, then I stood up. I saw all these people staring at me as I walked away. I felt so humiliated, as I was walking in the hall. I told her not to talk to me, for outting me. (My doctor has it specifically on   file to refer to me by LaToya and nothing else) as she was asking me questions in the room, my boyfriend sat right next to
me. She asked me really ridiculous questions, if I had old pics of myself from before and what I looked like, my boyfriend
looked at me and he was so pissed, as was I, my boyfriend is very protective of me, and he knows what as you should
never ask a trans person. I told my endo what she did and I heard him tell her off in the hall. I smiled vindictively like a
cheshire cat as he bitched her out
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ath

Maybe she had no idea you were trans and was just reading off the name at the top like she always does? I'm just spitballing. I like to play devil's advocate. Either way she should have been more careful or just done what was instructed of her and said "LaToya"
"When I think of all the worries people seem to find
And how they're in a hurry to complicate their mind
By chasing after money and dreams that can't come true
I'm glad that we are different, we've better things to do
May others plan their future, I'm busy lovin' you "
-The Grass Roots
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latoya rayne

Its on file that I am, sjphe called the name josh, I ignored her when she said this. Then she said LaToya. That's when I stood up. Mortified
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JennX

She wanted old pics... Really? Why did she want them, and what did she plan on doing with them? That request is really out of line and inappropriate. I'd find another endo. People with an agenda that have access to my private info, don't mix.
"If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain."
-Dolly Parton
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latoya rayne

This was his new nurse, I loved his old nurse Paula, I asked where she was, but she left and was replaced by this one :(  she was so insensitive. My doctor has a lot of trans patients and ive been seeing him since September. He's sweet and protective of his trans patients, I really miss Paula though
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Serenation

Hi Latoya, you will often see other TS when visiting specialists I wouldn't worry about that at all. I remember being in the exact situation as you in the waiting room before I had changed my name. They also had a note written of what to call me. If they address you by the wrong name in public whether it's on purpose or not just don't respond to it.

You can always go up to the counter a minute or two later and quietly correct them.

No idea why the nurse would ask for photo's but it's certainly something reasonable for the endo to ask for if they have concerns about your health. (i.e an undiagnosed hormone imbalance)
I will touch a 100 flowers and not pick one.
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Adam (birkin)

Well, she was very rude to you and it was non-professional. I'm sure she's going to have learned her lesson though!

BUT, with the name mistake - I am willing to bet that most people in the waiting room wouldn't have assumed it meant you were trans. Maybe they thought that "Josh" hadn't shown up (since no one answered) so she moved on to the next person on the list, which was you. It happens a lot in doctor's offices where someone is on the list but not there so they skip to the next person.

I don't know if that makes you feel any better or not, she was still very rude to you which was inexcusable, but maybe it didn't out you.
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