I think I need your help. My problems

[sworeb]

Hi everyone.

I'm a young guy from Spain, I have been reading the forum for many months and I decided to start this topic to tell you what its happening to me.

Like you, I want to be a woman. When I see a female, i can only think in be like her. I pass all the day thinking about that. But there are moments  when I suffer an aversion to this.

I dont know how to explain that, and my english is not too good, but i will try.

I dream with being a girl, having breasts, smooth skin, long hair, a nice butt, being desired by guys. I want to be in the female's role. Being a really and complete female. But there are moments when i reject to it, i think "You are a male, this thoughts are rare, you don't really want to be a girl"

I contradict myself. In less than a mont im going to the university, and im thinking in go to a psychologist and start a treatment.

Did you feel those things? What do you recommend me to do?
Sorry for the mistakes.

[JulieBlair]

Hola,
Your English is better than my Spanish. Bienvenido to Susan's.  Pretty much everyone here feels much like you do.  In my heart, I am a woman.  I have known that in one way or another since I was younger than you.  It just took me a very long time to be willing to accept that and even longer to do something about it.
Your plan is a good one.  To use the university as a place to explore who you are and to find a therapeutic setting there, is both the nature of learning and safe.  Gender dysphoria only gets worse over time, and if you do decide that transitioning is the right course of action for you it is better to do it while you are young.  There are so many beautiful young, smart, and compassionate voices here this is a great place to talk to people and make friends from all over the world.

Adios mi amigo,
Julie

[V M]

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[Ishtar]

Hi sworeb,

i dont have the "i am a male and dont want to be girl" thought before i figure out that i am trans. when i finally understand my feelings and understand that my wish could come true, i get those thoughts. being trans is no easy thing and transition is a really huge decision for your life. so i think it is normal that your mind try some repression tactics to avoid this difficult issue. visiting a therapist is a really good idea. talking (or writing) about your problems is always a good idea.

greetings

[stephaniec]

therapy is a good way to figure out what needs to be done

[Allyda]

Hola,
Your English is better than my Spanish. Bienvenido to Susan's.  Pretty much everyone here feels much like you do.  In my heart, I am a woman.  I have known that in one way or another since I was younger than you.  It just took me a very long time to be willing to accept that and even longer to do something about it.
Your plan is a good one.  To use the university as a place to explore who you are and to find a therapeutic setting there, is both the nature of learning and safe.  Gender dysphoria only gets worse over time, and if you do decide that transitioning is the right course of action for you it is better to do it while you are young.  There are so many beautiful young, smart, and compassionate voices here this is a great place to talk to people and make friends from all over the world.

Adios mi amigo,
Julie

Hey, what about us hot older ladies?

Seriously though, welcome to Susan's Sworeb. Though my circumstances are a bit different from most because for me it was never a "want" to be a woman, it is and has been a desperate "need" to bring my physical body in line with my heart, mind, and soul which is all girl and has been so since my first waking memories, I can still sympathize with your situation and the suggestion to use the university to explore who you are is very sound, great advice. Transitioning can be a wonderful enlightning experience, but as some have pointed out it is very far from easy and because we all have our own unique set of circumstances, you must be absolutely sure and confident about yourself in who you are first. Once you are the decision to transition, or not to transition will come natural. That being said, the decision to transition should never be based on something you "want" to do, it should be based on what you, yourself has and needs to do for you to be happy and lead a full life as who you are.

In the meantime while your exploring yourself you've found a great place here to help support you whichever decision your exploration leads you to.

Hugs,

Ally