The power of a woman

[Nero]

Sure, there is the certain sexual power of a woman. But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about loving a woman in a non romantic way. A mother. A friend. A sister. She's everything. And you love her. You need her. If she's upset with you, you want to die. Because she's everything. In ways a man - whether father, friend, lover etc. never can be.

You send flowers or you think about it. But it will never be enough. Whether you've wronged her or you're just trying to express gratitude. It will never be enough. She is beauty incarnate. And how can you ever express that? How can you ever thank her?

[HoneyStrums]

You go to them with problembs
You help them with theirs

You luagth when their funny, and tell them when their not.
You ultimatelly do for them what they do for you. Its the only real way. Because their is no other way to show how special that person is to you. Except enjoy their company and miss them when you spend to long appart.

Sure a lot of things chear them up, make them smile. But all a woman needs, is to know that she is needed. Being needed makes a person life have so much more meaning to themselves. And the only way to show it is to never want the person out of your life and all the little things you do in hopes She'ill stick around. And out of howgreatfull you are.

Its not the girf that's important, but why you want to give it.

I have one best freind and the things we apreciate the most is when each of us say, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT YOU.

But TRuth be told I can't speak for any other woman.

[suzifrommd]

I have a dear friend I feel that way about. We've had our differences over our 30 year friendship, but we appreciate each other as people. There wasn't an ounce of sexual feeling on either of our parts, even when I was a good looking male, just an open friendship.

I talked to her on the phone last night and she agreed to pull my bacon out of the fire in an issue that was greatly upsetting me.

I'm with you FA. I can't think of an adequate way to show my appreciation.

[HoneyStrums]

I have a dear friend I feel that way about. We've had our differences over our 30 year friendship, but we appreciate each other as people. There wasn't an ounce of sexual feeling on either of our parts, even when I was a good looking male, just an open friendship.

I talked to her on the phone last night and she agreed to pull my bacon out of the fire in an issue that was greatly upsetting me.

I'm with you FA. I can't think of an adequate way to show my appreciation.

Shes going to feel like the most important person in your life right now.

[Felix]

I want to be nice because I know mother's day was the eleventh, but there are currently 3 females in my life, and their power is complicated. My neighbor two doors down is a traditionally sexy late-twenties hipster, and she likes me well enough and she probably has enough charisma to get most people to do what she wants if she feels like aiming for effect. My daughter's therapist is gorgeous, intelligent, obviously caring, and civil all the time regardless what her actual views on anything might be. And then there's my daughter. She's sweet and I've devoted my life to her, but she's a bit of a monster. She threatened to kill my cat last week, and it gave me nightmares. She doesn't remember. She's broken my nose a couple times, and whenever I have surgery she aims her punches and kicks at the incision sites.

You can't just be nice and talk about nice ladies. I won't let you. For some of us, everyone is distant or damaged or unkind, male or female. My lack of healthy family members gets blamed all the time for my gender orientation, and that's wrong times a zillion but I still can't just be kind in a blanket fashion to one half of the populace.

This most recent holiday was painful and I wish to harm others for that. I am sorry.

[sad panda]

. My daughter's therapist is gorgeous, intelligent, obviously caring, and civil all the time regardless what her actual views on anything might be.

Mine too...

I miss her ;-; men are cool but they can't be my replacement mommy.

Sorry about your daughter. It is painful to read that after i did that crap to my bf just last night. Hopefully she at least feels bad afterwards. The guilt is killer

[Nero]

You can't just be nice and talk about nice ladies. I won't let you.

Oh? Well, I'm sorry, but the women in my life fit the description in my original post. Sorry yours don't. But I didn't say all females were saints. Obviously, no more than men - they're not. But the women in my life are beautiful and kind and make life wonderful. And I love them for it. All of them - my mother, and all my dear friends. I love men too and have had some wonderful male friends.

But I was just saying there's something uniquely awesome about a woman's love - a platonic love. The women in my world make life bearable. From my mother's soup to late night drunken calls to women friends - I doubt I'd be alive without it.

A woman's love is different from a man's. I mean, a woman sees it all. She changes diapers and loves unconditionally. You can make a mistake (you can ->-bleeped-<-), and she doesn't care. Sure, I have experienced a man's unconditional love too. But this kind of thing is so much more common in women. The women in my life see all my faults and still see the good and potential in me. A woman is someone you can call on for comfort. They give it just by the sound of their voice. That desperate, late night phone call when you've lost everything, you're scared or in pain - all it takes is the sound of her voice and I just know I'll survive.

This is for the women in my life who have answered late night calls, and helped to heal me - my Mother, Cindy, Jamie D (though they ID as non-binary), Jill F, and Sephirah. And for all the women who have messaged me and posted in support of me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_W0K_EkDoHk&feature=kp

[Donna Elvira]

But I was just saying there's something uniquely awesome about a woman's love - a platonic love. The women in my world make life bearable. From my mother's soup A woman's love is different from a man's. I mean, a woman sees it all. She changes diapers and loves unconditionally. You can make a mistake (you can ->-bleeped-<-), and she to late night drunken calls to women friends - I doubt I'd be alive without it.

doesn't care. Sure, I have experienced a man's unconditional love too. But this kind of thing is so much more common in women. The women in my life see all my faults and still see the good and potential in me. A woman is someone you can call on for comfort. They give it just by the sound of their voice. That desperate, late night phone call when you've lost everything, you're scared or in pain - all it takes is the sound of her voice and I just know I'll survive.

This is for the women in my life who have answered late night calls, and helped to heal me - my Mother, Cindy, Jamie D (though they ID as non-binary), Jill F, and Sephirah. And for all the women who have messaged me and posted in support of me.

While I have a few really excellent male friends, I am very much aligned with FA on this subject and would like to illustrate it with an something I have picked up on here on Susan's.

I was married before I started my transition and am one of the very happy MtF's whose mariage has not only survived transition, in many ways, as a couple,  we are even stronger now than before. What I picked up on here is that I am far from being alone.

Sure there are a lot of mariages that haven't survived transition (objectively a huge challenge for any couple) but there are also quite a surprising number of mariages that have done better than survive and end of the day, I'm beginning to think that the lesbian couples here (MtF + GG) are probably among those that work the best.

I may be wrong as I don't know too much about the FtM world but I do get that impression that very few FtM's were married or in stable relationships with genetic  males before starting their transitions and I'd be curious to know if any any such couple ever survived a transition? I suspect not very many. However, I also suspect that there are quite a few FtM's who were in lesbian relationships which did survive the transition.

So why the difference? For all the reasons cited by FA ie. most of all the totally awesome way women can love. When a woman has decided to give you her love and her love is recognized, she will do everything in her power to maintain and foster that love.

On a very personal note, I just would not have survived the difficulties of the last few years without the constant support and love of my wife to whom I owe more than I can ever express. She has been an absolute rock in my existance and when I read the stories of so many others here, I am acutely aware of how much it means to benefit from such a supportive presence in one's life.



So yes, for me too, a woman's love is one of the most beautiful things life has to offer.

Donna

P.S. BTW, I have also been through a very messy divorce so I have seen the other side of the coin too : "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...!"   

[HoneyStrums]

Woman are the best lovers,
AND too, the cruelest of the cruel.