dealing with bottom dysphoria

[yaka]

i guess i just wonder if, instead of waiting around, i should somehow TRY to enjoy sex with my vagina. i don't know.

Well, I did the same, wanting to 'be happy with what I've got' and hearing about FTMs who enjoy it. Not surprisingly it was not all it is cracked up to be. Physically uncomfortable because of my hormone situation and being sexually passive was not my thing. When it came to orgasms I could ONLY have them when either fantasising about having a penis or using one (strapon), which was impossible in that situation. Doesn't work for everyone, but that's not to say you should not experiment. In my situation it just confirmed what I already felt about myself and how I really wanted intimacy to be.

[notyouraverageguy]

it's weird, most things i read or watch about ftm, they don't have much bottom dysphoria, some even enjoy vaginal penetration (not saying that's bad but for me, i can't even imagine wanting that). for me, my genitals are one of the most things i feel bad about. it makes me feel weird that so many others can be happy with their genitals even though they're male, like why can't i be? is it part of my transness or do i have some other issue? i don't know. on the other hand, i don't have much top dysphoria, while a lot of guys do, so.

anyway i don't know how to deal with it. it sucks because it's the most thing (about my body) i feel dysphoric about but the thing that provides the least reliably good results. i feel like t and top surgery could give me the rest of the body i'd like but without a proper dick, what's the point? sometimes i'm scared i'll end up feeling like a muscular, hairy female without the dick to complete it. that's not what i want.

i guess i could maybe be content using a prothestic but i don't know. how do you guys deal with bottom dysphoria if you have it? what's been satisfactory, if anything?

I have a lot of bottom dysphoria, and I don't like that part down there so I also don't like using it.
Packing helps me feel comfortable in public because it gives me a bulge. But when it comes to being intimate, I can at any moment love or hate using both my dick or a prosthetic. I just try not to think about it much. I'm not sexually active at the moment so it doesn't come up much anymore.
I feel that even after top surgery I will have bottom dysphoria, it may even be worse for me. But I'm hoping to get some kind of surgery or a really good prosthetic.
What I try to do is be happy that t gave me some growth, and see it as a micro dick.

[Kreuzfidel]

i guess i just wonder if, instead of waiting around, i should somehow TRY to enjoy sex with my vagina. i don't know.

It's your choice.  I can't agree (for myself and my personal situation only) with the whole "being content with what you have" and "learning to enjoy it" mentality.  Good on those who use this thought process and it works for them, but I'm not going to force myself to do something that makes me sickly uncomfortable and that triggers the hell out of my dysphoria just because it seems like that's what everyone else does. 

Do it only if you a) genuinely want to experiment and give it a go and b) you're doing it for yourself and not because you feel peer pressure that there's something "wrong" with you for having bottom dysphoria. 

[Arch]

Sometimes, I wonder if FTMs have a lower rate of bottom surgery for reasons other than the current state of the art. People brought up as girls tend to be taught to compromise and put up with things and accept less than full status.

It can have advantages and disadvantages.

[LordKAT]

I just know the bottom is a much worse problem for me than the top, the top is just much more affordable.

[Polo]

Sometimes, I wonder if FTMs have a lower rate of bottom surgery for reasons other than the current state of the art. People brought up as girls tend to be taught to compromise and put up with things and accept less than full status.

It can have advantages and disadvantages.

That is a possibility, but I've also heard that MTF bottom surgery is MUCH more successful than FTM surgery...Which I guess sort of evens the field out since T is more transformative to an FTM than HRT is for an MTF. There are non-op MTFs though as well... I think that it's more of an individual issue than anything, compromise vs. not compromise, dysphoric vs. not dysphoric...

Also I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's dysphoric about sitting down to pee, that feeling has been getting stronger and stronger for me, I use my STP most of the time now. I don't have a super strong bottom dysphoria otherwise though (besides no penetration), oddly... Although when I really think about it, a lot of my dysphoria comes from what I can/can't/am expected/am not expected to do. As long as I can do the same things as a man, I'm pretty happy however I accomplish them.

That being said, if there was a reasonable surgery that had cis results, sign me up.