Ughh i'm attracting men like flys. Anything I can wear to signal I'm a lesbian?

[alabamagirl]

I just want to say that I find nothing complimentary about being hit on by complete strangers. I find it annoying and dumb. In my experience a lot of men will hit on anything female. It's not even based on how physically attractive you are. As a perfect example of this, since changing my gender indicator to female online, I have received a ton of flirtatious messages out of the blue. These are from people who can not see any pictures of me unless I allow them to, and obviously know nothing of my personality or interests. All they see is the basic info on my profile which lists me as female, and this is apparently enough to interest them. What could I possibly find complimentary about this? I find it creepy, to be honest. It makes me feel like they think I'm some sort of piece of meat. And yes, being a lesbian who finds all men icky to begin with certainly doesn't help.

I have yet to experience any women acting this way towards me. Only the men.

[Heather]

I just want to say that I find nothing complimentary about being hit on by complete strangers. I find it annoying and dumb. In my experience a lot of men will hit on anything female. It's not even based on how physically attractive you are. As a perfect example of this, since changing my gender indicator to female online, I have received a ton of flirtatious messages out of the blue. These are from people who can not see any pictures of me unless I allow them to, and obviously know nothing of my personality or interests. All they see is the basic info on my profile which lists me as female, and this is apparently enough to interest them. What could I possibly find complimentary about this? I find it creepy, to be honest. It makes me feel like they think I'm some sort of piece of meat. And yes, being a lesbian who finds all men icky to begin with certainly doesn't help.

I have yet to experience any women acting this way towards me. Only the men.

They're is a big difference between online and real life. I was talking about being hit on in person by men is what I find flattering to see them nervous to talk to you I find it kinda cute. And this is coming from a woman who actually is very wary of men and they frighten me a bit even though I'm attracted to them physically. And the reason you don't see women acting that way towards you is because lesbians don't flirt that way from my experience.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Come on,,,even if guys knew you were a lesbian they d still stare at you or even hit on you!!
It cant be helped...

just be lesbian and proud and let them know you re not interested...

I dunno the lgbt bracelet seems like a good idea...

They're is a big difference between online and real life. I was talking about being hit on in person by men is what I find flattering to see them nervous to talk to you I find it kinda cute. And this is coming from a woman who actually is very wary of men and they frighten me a bit even though I'm attracted to them physically. And the reason you don't see women acting that way towards you is because lesbians don't flirt that way from my experience.

indeed it can be fun...damn it ,they are like little pets who desperately need a girl haha

[Sarah leah]

Do what I do, use the two magic words, "NO THANKS."

[Evelyn K]

Come on,,,even if guys knew you were a lesbian they d still stare at you or even hit on you!!
It cant be helped...

just be lesbian and proud and let them know you re not interested...

I dunno the lgbt bracelet seems like a good idea...

indeed it can be fun...damn it ,they are like little pets who desperately need a girl haha

Maybe something like this? (eBay)



Hmm ... I don't know. Maybe. But I would probably do it when presenting female (in 3 more months).

Princess...wanna go full time at that time with me?

[Ms Grace]

Any of the following should do the trick...

[Evelyn K]

^ Yep. lolz!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Princess...wanna go full time at that time with me?

you bet I do!

and I also want some of these shirts!

[Heather]

Any of the following should do the trick...

I was going to say something about that being out as a lesbian can draw even more unwanted attention from men. Then I remembered I'm the same woman who is debating about getting a rainbow bumper sticker for my car. 

[Evelyn K]

I thought these where pretty, and still somewhat understated.

[Heather]

I thought these where pretty, and still somewhat understated.

I like this one the best 

[Evelyn K]

Pretty







And I really like this!

[Evelyn K]

BTW a little seque...

Go Ellen Page!!!

[Debussy]

I never thought about that before, actually.. Gay bling... what a good idea!!! I mean, they're already staring, right?

[Jenny07]

How about a Taser. That might get the message through?

[Ms Grace]

I'm sure it's a problem cis lesbians face too. I'm having dinner with a couple tonight...will ask for you!

[Sammy]

A rainbow bracelet can work wonders. I call mine 'cougar repellent'

Whereas a bracelet in TG pride flag colours mostly gets "Wtf is that?" outcome. I have even gotten that from lesbian and gay people - all they know is rainbow flag... Sometimes it is nice to live in a 3rd world country and sometimes... that ignorance just gets at me .

[alabamagirl]

Those bracelets are really pretty, but I wonder if they'll really get the message across or if guys will just assume it's colourful jewelry. Or notice it at all.

Oh, and that 'vagitarian' shirt is hilarious. xD

@Heather: I'm basically a shut in, so I've never experienced anyone of either gender hitting on me randomly outside of the internet, but I hope it doesn't ever happen with men. Online it's just annoying, but offline, I imagine my reaction would be very nervous and uncomfortable and trying to remove myself from the situation as soon as possible. I'm not sure what the term is for it, but I'm also extremely weary of men.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying I want women to hit on me randomly, either.

[Ms Grace]

The two ladies I saw this evening said unwanted attention from men was part of the landscape - sorry to say.

[Dee Marshall]

And to be honest lesbians do get hit on by men too just because a man knows your a lesbian doesn't mean he will be like omg she's a lesbian I can't be attracted to her.

I dated a lesbian for over a year. She dated no men before me and none after. It confused us both. Neither one of us knew I was a woman at the time.

Back on topic. If I get hit on by someone these days I just say no thank you and take it as the compliment it is. Nothing you can do will be 100% effective. If you already have a woman on your arm the threesome types or the "I can change you both" types just gather.