Are there Consultants of Any Sort?

[TheQuestion]

Like I've said WAY too many times in the short duration that I've been here; I don't think I'd transition unless I passed well enough.  I really do worry about that.  I think I've seen virtual ffs, but are there consultants who would give an overall assessment and determine your potential passibility?  Would a therapist make suggestions and be truthful if I asked?  I mean, if I said passing was key for me, would a therapist work with me towards that?  Is virtual FFS even a good reference point?  I'd almost like to see a plastic surgeon just to see if my face and body would be conducive to contorting.  I have no butt or hips and I really think if I had them I'd be able to pass well even with my height and huge boney hands.  I really wouldn't want to have to wear padded panties all the time.  I know I'd really need to get on hormones before a real accurate answer could be given, but still.  Thanks in advance...

[Jessica Merriman]

I don't think I'd transition unless I passed well enough.

I didn't transition to PASS well, I transitioned to LIVE well.

[Ms Grace]

I know I'd really need to get on hormones before a real accurate answer could be given...

Yes.

You are not alone in worrying about how you will look and whether you will pass should you transition to your identified gender, it's a concern of just about every trans person at some point or another. There will be some things that surgery and hormones won't be able to correct, some things maybe yes after you fork out huge sums of money. But do you really, really need to? Passing is just as much about confidence and presentation (posture, dress, walk, talk) as it is about looks.

I would suggest that in addition to talking to a FFS consultant you also talk to a counsellor about what you consider to be your inadequacies and concerns about them during transition.

[TheQuestion]

I didn't transition to PASS well, I transitioned to LIVE well.

That's true, but both sort of go hand and hand with me.  I already have pretty bad social anxiety and I feel that would only be amplified if I felt that I was being clocked on routine.  I have a degree and I work, but I haven't really started a career or anything.  I'm still pretty early on in my life and I just worry that discrimination could make starting one difficult.

[Jill F]

I didn't transition to PASS well, I transitioned to LIVE well.

The day I ran out of sh*ts to give about what people thought of me was probably the biggest breakthrough of my life.  I was so fed up with trying to be something I truly wasn't that going full time 8 weeks into a low dose of E came as a major relief to me.  And no, I haven't had any surgeries yet.  I might someday, but to be honest, being the size I am is my biggest clockability factor and that cannot ever be changed.

[TheQuestion]

I'm getting to a point where I almost don't care.  I sort of feel like I should start hrt regardless of whether or not I might transition.  I really feel like I'm just not compatible with testosterone.  I'm sort of always pissed off these days...

[Jessica Merriman]

  I'm sort of always pissed off these days...

That is why I started transition. At the lowest point I wanted to be Godzilla and trample every city and person I saw. Now I am meek as a lamb and in control of myself. I get emotional of course, but I no longer want to vaporize the world. If you were having a heart attack you would want nitro spray, Lidocaine and M.S., if so why wouldn't you want HRT to treat the symptoms you have now?