I would like your father to read all the replies to this thread, including this one if he's willing to do so. Everyone else ahs already said what I would have said so, instead, to your father I shall share some what I have to go through and give some advice.
To Blucatt's Father
Hello, I think it's great that you're willing to read the replies in this thread. My own Dad would never ever do something like that. He's not supportive at all, forces his own belief and opinions on others (including me) and it's his way or the highway. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy and in some ways, a good Dad, but, in others, he's a terrible Father and should never have been one. I don't have much of a bond with him, and, honestly, that's because of who he is, plus the fact he disrespects me all the time and says he's not disrespecting me. He realizes I have some serious issues caused from my Gender Dysphoria which include daily depression and when it's bad or I've just had a real bad day, or if I think I won't be able to transition then, well, sad to say but I get suicidal thoughts. I myself haven't acted on them but hey! You know it's never good when you have thoughts like these, and that's only half of it. On top of that, I have to put up with at times being misgendered, being called by my birth name which greatly hurts, annoys, frustrates me and even depresses me and so on. Let me tell you, being trans is no laughing matter. It's not something you take lightly or joke about. It's real, it's serious and it can cost a person their life and or the relationships they have with family, friends and acquaintances. Many trans people who are denied by their families have to go through HELL and no child, let alone anyone for that matter should EVER have to go through that, but, if family, friends and acquaintances are their for us, supportive of us, then, we can have a very happy life.
You might be wondering, am I going to continue to have a relationship with my Dad in the future? Honestly, that's up to him not me. I've tried to tell him, it's not his or anyone's fault that I was born this way, I've tried telling him and informing him, showing him places where he can get info on trans people and so much more. I've spent so much time trying to show him the truth, but, sadly, he's an overly religious person and chooses to not listen, be ignorant to the truth, goes as far as to say, the proof I showed him and so much more is lies, which in turn is him also saying all those professionals out there who know what they're doing and talking about (Including doctors, therapists and so much more) don't know what they're talking about and are crazy for saying something that goes against his belief/opinion/religion and remember, that's on TOP of the stuff I've shown him being actual proof. I've asked him, to be respectful to me, as I have MORE than put up with his crap and been respectful to him, at my own expense, sanity and well being. So, in short, no I won't have a relationship with him or anyone whose like him in the future if they continue to do what my Dad has done to me.
I ask you, Blucatt's Father, to be there for your child, listen to them and PLEASE help your child to transition if that's what they wish! Now, two things to note, transition doesn't happen over night, this will take years to do, even after surgery you're still transitioning into your new role, or so I'm told, but, it does take years to fully transition and, with all us trans people got to go through, you can be sure we'll know whether or not we wish to do so before any surgeries and such happen. The 2nd thing to note is, those AA blockers ARE reversible! So, if the child for whatever reason wishes to transition back, then, it is reversible, but, do the research and see more for yourself. Also, another thing on that note, the odds of a trans person de-transitioning back into the role they were assigned at birth and no longer feeling Dysphoria about their gender is slim if they're already at the age of 6-8 and still showing signs of being a trans person. This is more so the case if they're already a teen and, hey, try putting yourself in your child's shoes. Just imagine, being called by a name/pronoun that isn't who you are and is for the opposite gender, now imagine being FORCED to conform to that gender role that you know you aren't. Just imagine, everyone treating you in a way that makes you miserable, whether with good intentions or not, it still makes you miserable. Now imagine two more things, that, all of a sudden, your body is now the opposite sex of what you know you are, and, that because of puberty, you're getting worse in that department, and, to make it all worse, society and those around you keep treating you as the opposite gender you say you are and no matter what you tell and show them, it does no good and you still get treated as the opposite gender. Try imagining having to live like that, for the rest of your life, I guarantee you, you'd be in bad shape, the more time goes on and depending on how supportive people are of you and your situation. That's what your child is going through now, so please, be supportive of your child and help them. Not based on what YOU BELIEVE but based on what your CHILD BELIEVES! Do the research, seek therapists out who specialize in GID/GD. Please, don't become like my Dad is or you too, may not have a relationship with your child someday but, please, most of all, remember, your child's happiness comes first, after all, would you rather have a happy healthy child or a dead child? This is something that most parents and people don't seem to get. Honestly, even if I wasn't born trans I would rather have a happy healthy child than a dead one.
Remember to listen to your children and, best of luck and take care you both. Hope it all works out.
From, Shana-chan
